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     Once I studied a short story that gave me a great lesson. I want the reader to get experience from this story. My mom had only one eye. I hated her... she was such an embarrassment. She cooked for students and teachers to support the family. One day during elementary school where my mom came to say hello to me, I was so embarrassed. How could she do this to me? I ignored her, threw her a hateful look and ran out. The next day at school one of my classmates said "EEEE, your mom only has one eye!" 

     I wanted to bury myself. I also wanted my mom to just disappear. So I confronted her that day and said: "if you're only going to make me a laughing stock, why don't you just die", my mom didn't respond!! I didn't even stop to think for a second about what I had said, because I was in full of anger I wanted to be out of that house.. So I studied really hard , got a chance to go to Singapore to study. Then, I got married, I bought a house of my own. I was happy with my life. Then one day, my mother came to visit me. She hadn't seen me in years and she didn't even meet her grandchildren! When she stood by the door, my children laughed at her. I screamed at her, "How dare you come to my house and scare my children! GET OUT OF HERE! NOW!!"  And to this, my mother quietly answered "oh, I'm so sorry. I may have gotten the wrong address", and she disappeared out of sight.

     One day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house. So I lied to my wife that I was going on a business trip... After the reunion, I went to the old shack just out of curiosity!! My neighbours said that she died. I did not shed a single tear!!. They handed me a letter that she had wanted me to have.

The letter:

"My dearest son, I think of you all the time... I'm sorry that I came to Singapore and scared your children. I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion. But I may not be able to even get out of bed to see you. I'm sorry that I was a constant embarrassment to you when you were growing up. You see ...... when you were very little, you got into an accident, and lost your eye, as a mother, I couldn't stand watching you having to grow up with one eye, so .. I gave you mine ... I was so proud of my son who was seeing a whole new world for me, in my place, with that eye.  

With my love to you...Your mother."

أصدقائي ، أردت مشاركتكم معرفة هذه القصة وهي ليست لي ،ولكنها حقا مؤثرة ...

بعد 21 سنة من زواجي، وجدت بريقاً جديداً من الحب. قبل فترة بدأت أخرج مع امرأة غير زوجتي، وكانت فكرة زوجتي حيث بادرتني بقولها: "أعلم جيداً كم تحبها"... المرأة التي أرادت زوجتي ان أخرج معها وأقضي وقتاً معها كانت أمي التي ترملت منذ 19 سنة، ولكن مشاغل العمل وحياتي اليومية 3 أطفال ومسؤوليات جعلتني لا أزورها إلا نادراً. في يوم اتصلت بها ودعوتها إلى العشاء سألتني: "هل أنت بخير ؟ " لأنها غير معتادة على مكالمات متأخرة نوعاً ما وتقلق. فقلت لها: "نعم أنا ممتاز ولكني أريد أن أقضي وقت معك يا أمي ". قالت: "نحن فقط ؟! " فكرت قليلاً ثم قالت: "أحب ذلك كثيراً". في يوم الخميس وبعد العمل ، مررت عليها وأخذتها، كنت مضطرب قليلاً، وعندما وصلت وجدتها هي أيضاً قلقة. كانت تنتظر عند الباب مرتدية ملابس جميلة ويبدو أنه آخر فستنان قد اشتراه أبي قبل وفاته. ابتسمت أمي كملاك وقالت: " قلت للجميع أنني سأخرج اليوم مع إبني، والجميع فرح، ولا يستطيعون انتظار الأخبار التي سأقصها عليهم بعد عودتي" ذهبنا إلى مطعم غير عادي ولكنه جميل وهادئ تمسكت أمي بذراعي وكأنها السيدة الأولى، بعد أن جلسنا بدأت أقرأ قائمة الطعام حيث أنها لا تستطيع قراءة إلا الأحرف الكبيرة. وبينما كنت أقرأ كانت تنظر إلي بابتسامة عريضة على شفتاها المجعدتان وقاطعتني قائلة: "كنت أنا من أقرأ لك وأنت صغير". أجبتها: "حان الآن موعد تسديد شيء من ديني بهذا الشيء .. ارتاحي أنت يا أماه". تحدثنا كثيراً أثناء العشاء لم يكن هناك أي شيء غير عادي، ولكن قصص قديمة على قصص جديدة لدرجة أننا نسينا الوقت إلى ما بعد منتصف الليل وعندما وصلنا إلى باب بيتها قالت: "أوافق أن نخرج سوياً مرة أخرى، ولكن على حسابي". فقبلت يدها وودعتها ". بعد أيام قليلة توفيت أمي بنوبة قلبية. حدث ذلك بسرعة كبيرة لم أستطع عمل أي شيء لها. وبعد عدة أيام وصلني عبر البريد ورقة من المطعم الذي تعشينا به أنا وهي مع ملاحظة مكتوبة بخطها: "دفعت الفاتورة مقدماً كنت أعلم أنني لن أكون موجوده، المهم دفعت العشاء لشخصين لك ولزوجتك. لأنك لن تقدر ما معنى تلك الليلة بالنسبة لي أحبك ياولدي" في هذه اللحظة فهمت وقدرت معنى كلمة "حب" أو "أحبك" وما معنى جعلنا الطرف الآخر يشعر بحبنا ومحبتنا هذه. لا شيء أهم من الوالدين وبخاصة الأم . إمنحهم الوقت الذي يستحقونه ..

Most of people, especially those young, prefer to stay footloose and fancy free, this way of thinking makes most of them late and losing many chances which may make their life better.
 And they still bend the truth to keep believing on their thoughts, even if they realize their mistakes; they don’t get on the right way!  They just are trying to fix what they did – out of the frying pan into the fire! -  And so on! By this behaviour they, even if they have a lot of mates,   lose many friends  ... well I guess they still don't know what friendship is! And what does it mean to be a friend!

Let me tell U about friendship... then tell me if I'm wrong!
When we are affectionate, we become active. We spend time thinking of our friends, so we look forward to activities with them...

Friendship means to give entertainment without requiring any stipulation... And that what we always do in Ebaby chat rooms! , I wonder those who are trying to make love, or end their friendship with hate! While we were there just to practice English! Chatting and having fun!

We must have an active part in our friend's lives. We are happy when they are happy, their accomplishments become ours... and we feel good when they are praised.
"We must be our own before we can become another's." We must learn to love ourselves before we can love our friends. We learn, first with ourselves, what we like, how we like to be treated. This way we are more prepared to become a friend of someone else
 

At last ... a Friend is someone who is always there and will always always care