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  men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed.women are motivated and empowered when they feel cherished.

  when a man is in love,he begins to care about another as much as himself.he experiences his partern's fulfillment as if it were his own.he can easily endure any hardship to make her happy,because her happiness makes him happy.his struggles become easier,he's energized with high purpose.most of men are not only hungry to give love,but starving for.the biggest problem is they do not know what they are missing.they rarely saw their father succeed in fulfilling their mothers through giving.when his relationships fail,he finds himself depressed and stuck in his cave.he stops caring,and then does not know why he is so depressed.at sunch times,he asks himself 'what is it all for ?' 'why should i even bother?' he does not know that he stops caring because he does not feel needed.he does not realize that by finding someone who needs him,he can shake off the depression and be motivated again.not bo be needed is a slow death for a man.

  most of the men have little awareness how important it is to woman to feel supportd by someone who cares.women are happy when they believe their needs will be met.when a woman is upset,she needs to feel she is not alone.she needs to feel loved and cherished.empathy,understanding ,validation and compassion go a long way to assist her in becoming more receptive and appreciative of his support.men do not realize this because their martian instincts tell them it is best to be alone when they are upset.when she is upset,out of respect he will leave her alone,or if he stays he makes matters worse by trying to solve her problems.he does not instinctively realize that what she needs most is just someone to be there,someone to listen,someone to cares.

  this passage i have red several times ,i think it's a good passage ,so i write it here and share with  my friends of ebaby.