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Ouch! It hurts to get dumped but when we don't know what happened to make a seemingly good relationship come to an end it is even harder. There is no easy way to deal with this and no kind words that can be offered to soften the blow. Bottom line, your guy doesn't want to be with you. It would be nice if he could tell you why but it isn't essential for you to know in order to get on with the business of being you. In holding on to this lack of closure what you are really doing is holding on to the relationship and you won't be able to heal until you let go.

First things first, accept that this relationship is over.

Mourn your loss and commit to moving on. After you have done that if you really feel you want to know why he broke things off take a deep breath, brace yourself for things you will not want to hear, and ask him to be brutally honest. Ask him to tell you why he ended the relationship and tell him that you don't want him to spare your feelings. Chances are that he does have reasons for breaking things off but that he thinks he is being kinder by keeping them to himself. If you really want to know you have to tell him that he is hurting you more by keeping you in the dark than he ever would be by telling you the truth.

Know this, you will not like what he says. It will hurt and you will probably not feel better after he has told you why he ended things. Most people want to know why a relationship failed so that they can try to fix those things and take another shot at making the relationship work. If this is your motive in wanting to know why things ended I strongly advise you to let it go and never bother finding out why he called it quits. If he wanted to keep the relationship and fix the problems he would have told you so, he would have come to you with his concerns and you would have worked on them together. Obviously he did not want this, he wanted out. You need to accept that. If you want to know why he eneded things in order to get closure, great, but if you want to know so you can change and convince him to give you another chance, don't bother. You won't be happy in a relationship if you can't be you. Let him go and spend your energy finding somebody who wants to be with the real you.

Source: http://teenadvice.about.com/cs/loveladysadvice/a/LL0503_3.htm

I tears when i read your words, i really don't know what to say!!

My friend Dubai; let me tell you the truth even it may hurt because im a man and im thinking in a different way…...... don't think by your heart at the moment, you are so need to thinking by your brain, to be honest with you HE doesn't deserve you, why should you cry him! your tears is much  precious  to falling down  for him….....treat  your  wounds  and  be closed to your friends, they may able to stand with you and pick you up….........Go a head Dubai and being high like The Real Dubai and its Towers.

 

hope to see you better than yet

Do not worry, u will survive. Any way, he is not the only one in this world. There r many good guys. Just be patient. Time will heal and new boy will come. Wish u all the best. Just be strong.

Do not be sad,you still have so many friends who can spend happy time when you feel alone.

Hi Precious Jewels,
Do u believe that God does everything for our good? If so, then it is a blessing in disguise. U are about to be sent another prince charming who deserves you. Try not to sulk and maintain your composure. Your soulmate will come knocking on your heart in no time. Don't waste precious hours and tears for someone who is not worth crying for. I do know that it isn't easy to forget someone you love so dearly but for the sake of your health and happiness you should make your best effort. If he can be happy without you, why can't you without him? Keep yourself busy and mingle with friends.
Best wishes,
Chakra