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polygamy? how about polyandry?

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02:06 AM Jun 01 2008 | Reply

JoePuding

JoePuding

Czech Republic

Some people are OK with the polygamy some mind it. I myself wonder what ppl and especially men think about the polyandry. if they can have more wives, what if a woman had more husbands?

 

If I could have more girls…..:-) aight why not

If I were one of someone´s boys or husbands…..no way!

 

see how I, as a man, think

05:12 AM Jun 01 2008 | Reply

gkisseberth

gkisseberth

Colombia

I have no problem with polygamy, polyandry, or poly-whatever. As long as it doesn't involve coercion or force and doesn't infringe on anyone elses rights, people should be able to associate and enter into contracts in any way they wish. 

 

Personally I probably come close to the way Joe feels.  

05:24 AM Jun 01 2008 | Reply

mike_gwen

mike_gwen

Indonesia

I don’t think I can share my girl with other..
No way man..

11:41 AM Jun 01 2008 | Reply

pop272001

pop272001

Indonesia

I don’t care any kind of ‘poly’ words, include polyclinic and polycarpus, Lol…! but i care polyandry! Since man like a baby, woman should care as well. So how if there 4 husband? As if we have double twins in cage! No! One is enough to pay attention!

01:18 PM Jun 01 2008 | Reply

mike_gwen

mike_gwen

Indonesia

Pop-polycarpus??I don’t think foreigners knows about him,don’t they?LOL
if there’s more than one husband so the husbands must take a DNA test to determine who’s the real father..=)

02:27 PM Jun 01 2008 | Reply

birgül1

Turkey

Why do women not have the right of marring more than one man?


The Glorious Qur’an advises firstly monogamy. However, it commands justice in the circumstances when polygamy becomes necessary as a result of conditions.

Besides, Islam did not increase the number from one to two or three, but decreased it from higher numbers to lower ones. As the number of women is more than that of men, by this way a legitimate way is opened to women.

On the other hand, there are the facts that man’s sexual desire continues for long until old age, that woman’s desires stop early, that in certain months she is in the menstrual period and that sometimes she becomes pregnant thus being unable to involve in intercourse. Considering all these, the dimensions of the issue will be better understood.

Some of religious principles are not bound by reason, but dominated by submission, not by reason. These are called taabbudi-concerned with worship. For example, that the Morning Prayer consists of two parts, and that noon prayer of four is not an issue bound by reason. It is something absolutely ordained by God. And some other religious principles contain complete rationale, wisdom and purpose that we call ‘maqul-ul mana’. In this part, a Muslim scholar or scientist can discuss an Islamic issue in his field, can put forth an idea, or make reasoning. For example, he can explain such issues as why eating pork is forbidden, and why alcohol is banned with principles of knowledge and wisdom. The second part, which is dependent on reason, is wider than the first one-the taabbudi. In view of these, we answer this question: “That’s because God has ordained it this way.”

The mother of the child that is born because of the intercourse between a woman and a man is obvious. However, if its father is not known, then generations are mixed up. If a woman marries a couple of men, then to whom the child born will be attributed would be uncertain. Imagine a woman has four spouses. All of them have intimacy with her. To whom will the child born belong? One mother and four fathers… Can you imagine such a thing? Say the first one who had intimacy with the woman is the father; what will the others do until the child is born? These are not just the mixing up of a generation; rather are the fight of men and desperation of women. This is just a beam of wisdom. There may be thousands of reflections of wisdom besides this one. However, they cannot replace the command of God that we call the real reason. In other words, if science progresses and if it can thus be determined to whom the child belongs, does it become permissible for women to marry more than one man? The answer is no. That is because God commanded that one woman can marry one man. Thousands of beams of wisdom cannot undo this divine command.

God has given woman the feelings of belonging and attachment to someone. And to man He has given the feelings of possessing and attaching others to himself. For this reason, it is unimaginable for woman to behave like man and to marry a couple of men and thus to care for them; this is against her nature. As a requisite of creation, except for a small number of primitive tribes, throughout the history although men have gone through polygamy, women did not marry more than one man.

Even, does the manhood psychology not show generality at this point? Would the rooster, ram, bull, etc. accept a partner willingly?

As it is not valid in our time, it has not been seen in the course of history in terms of law. Those who claim it is possible should make sacrifices and should first prove it with their own wives. Let us see if they can be wife to more than one husband or if they mean just sleeping with them, many women who lead illicit lives already do this. If they cannot do that with their own wives and if they encourage others notwithstanding, then it means that they have some other covert intentions

08:30 PM Jun 01 2008 | Reply

pop272001

pop272001

Indonesia

don't worry MIKE..I think people will search 'Polycarpus" by Google, what kind of POLY is it!! Smile

JOE…since man like a baby, they wanna get attention for people around them. Not just one, but more!.  Qhat Mike said is right.  Polygamy is more easy to make sure who is father of the babies, but polyandry not. And People don't wanna make woman suffering coz everyday she is too busy to care 4 husbands. As you know In a conventional family, a wife must serve and care her husband and children. I don't know in the modern country and your country, Does it have same value?. But anyway Joe..I like your principle: One wife is enough, right? Wink

12:03 AM Jun 02 2008 | Reply

englishlabor

englishlabor

China

of course I am against both of polygamy and polyandry. although in many countries,it is a reality. In my country, some rich men have several wives but they never let his legal wife know that they have some other girls outside home. polygamy and polyandry are both forbiddened in China.But some rich people just can't accept the reality that they have only one wife to accompany with themself throughout their whole life.You know,they are that kind of people who are always interested in new things and would quickly lost interested in old things.That kind of love in my life isn't love at all.I pursue the pure love that you live with someone you really love and share your happiness and sorrow with her or him and of course sometimes when you two encounter some problems,try your best to solve them together.

04:24 AM Jun 02 2008 | Reply

monatta

monatta

Saudi Arabia


pop , 

I did it , I  searched for polycarpus in google Wink

 

I want to tell you that I am completely with you , we both wife and know well how husband act  in side the house   ,  he is somehow selfish and usually feel  jealousy  when he see  his wife care about his children more than him , what if he saw her care about 3 other  husbands  . impossible to endure this .Tongue out

 

also women in this time , have more self confidence and more independent financially  .  so nothing make her endure being one of 4  wives , even not accept to be one of two wives , except few in my society were polygamy is possible   .Kiss

 

there is crime committed by wife before few years in my society , she killed her husband  after finding out that  he married another women secretly .

 


05:11 AM Jun 02 2008 | Reply

monatta

monatta

Saudi Arabia

mike ,

 

DNA test cost alot so  I do not think  husbands will sacrifies what they  reserved and stored of money  .hence ,  as the baby is given birth , all of them  will run a way Laughing   

05:53 AM Jun 02 2008 | Reply

mike_gwen

mike_gwen

Indonesia

Yeah monatta,the husbands will run away to nearest hospital to get the dna test result.=)
I don’t think both polygamy and polyandry’d give advantages neither to men nor women.it’s all just playing around with human’s feeling..

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