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Hey!

I have a serious question. What if someone loves a Muslim girl but that someone is not a Muslim? What can that someone do to be with her without getting in trouble or getting her in trouble?

I heard Muslims are strictly against it and don't even let that girl choose who she wants. Can you give me some information?

In Islam:

Allah forbids muslim women to get married to non-muslim men.

Let's suppose that the parents of the girl are God-fearing muslims and they never allow their daughter to marry a non-muslim.

To avoid trouble this someone should:

either understand that he cannot get the girl and leave her alone.

or read about Islam in hope that he knows that it is the religion of "truth". If this happens, he would convert to Islam and then he would be able to marry the girl.

Hi Joe, long time no see ;p

There is Islamic rule that a non-muslim man can`t married with a muslim woman but as Abd' Arrahman said if the guy convert to Islam they can married.

& excuse me ur hearing about a muslim gils who can`t even choose who they want is somehow wrong.

maybe there r even now some families that don`t let their girls choose their man but they r sooooooo rare & girls choose themselves.

hi

my name is karla im from peru

Hi Reyhaneh,

Thank you for the comment. It is an important one.

In Islam:

In the one hand, parents cannot force their daughter to marry someone whom she doesn't like.

In order for the contract of marriage to be valid we need the acceptance of both of the bride and the groom to get married.

In the other hand, the daughter has to obey her parents as long as they do not order her to do something which Allah forbids. Therefore, if the parents oppose her marriage from the man that she wanted she has to obey them. Showing obedience to the parents here means obeying Allah and submitting to his will.

 To put it briefly, in order for the contract of marriage to be valid (legal), both of the daughter and parents have to accept the groom.

to reyhaneh ,what you said is authoritative.and give you my best wishes.good weeked!

reading your post Abd'Arrahman, I thought that you explained so well  that there remained nothing to write but just until to the last paragraph of it. Are you sure that the marriage doesnt be valid if the parents dont approve of the groom? Cos I dont think so and actually I've never heard of such a thing. I'd understand if you said it would be nice for the daughter to get their approval as this would be a sign of respect and affection but dont think that this will affect its validity….

Thank you guys…it doesn't sound bad but…it could be better :/ What if umm… that someone…doesnt mind Islam, repsects it and everything…but doesn't want to become a Muslim. btw…you can't marry just anyone OK? so you're gonna wanna date her before! Although…you don't do that, do you? You just get engaged to get to know each other better, right? So imagine this situation – a guy loves a girl and naturally they both wanna be together…here it's so EASY, if she feels the same, he just starts dating her and that's it but…if the girl's a Muslim…and the boy aint…omg does he really have to become a Muslim? just to get the chance to – lemme say – date her? You know…to marry someone you need a lot of time, it's a big decision and you dont wanna go wrong…so here is my suggestion – That someone will be introduced to her family, they will find out that he seems to be a good man and allow that girl to spend some time with him..only like talking, just together – that's the point. Is that OK? Do you think that the family would be so tolerant of that? And after some time they may talk about it…like if it's really really neccessary for him to become a Muslim…btw…being a Muslim…Hey guys isn't it kinda too much? like..why should a religion be such a barrier in love?I think that there is alreadyenough trouble when you love a foreigner…like other differences.

Damn! I think there should be an international organization supporting love :( coz everyone should be loved!

hope u can read it    :S

There can be no straight forward answer to this question. It is between you and her. Ask these questions to her. Listen her carefully. Don't idealize anything, take a practical attitude. If it needs "just" conversion, don't think twice. But most of the times it is not just the question of religion. When there is conservatism, it covers the WHOLE thing- language, Clan, color, status, nationality and and and, in fact it means you are not given the right to decide about yourselef. I don't know about Zimbawe, but if it is true "worst" case, then there are no ifs and buts- one has to decide  "this and that", you know what could be at stake- life sometimes! 

Thank you.

I'm not from Zimbabwe, it's just for fun.