Yes and now we found out about things that have effect on our life. Believing in God Love and ….. But I have one more question you know to be able to live in a good way we need to know people very well 3 weeks ago I went to a trip by my classmate. before that i used to think all of the people think like me with a bit difference but on that trip by staying with them i found out that they are too different from me. the thing that made me more uneasy was that i had spent 3 years with them in my school and by that time i hadn’t found out about their real personality so could you please tell me some advise how to know people more?
We human beings are very complex,..., remember, sometimes, even we dont know ourselves completely, specially in some situations where there is a lot of freedom we may change our mentality. My advice is: U shouldnt watch others behaviour, but keep an eye to yourself, and the most important 4 me is: U should take care that the other's behavior wont change yours…..
Your beliefs, and ur moral, should be against to those who have bad behavior in life.
But the most difficult question is this: Will you be able to keep strong against any difficult situation??, even when you'd be in total freedom?
Dont answer me, pls, this question is for every one of us and the answer is to ourselves…..
I have learned a lot from what i have seen in life. It´s important to be honest with yourself. You must be sure of, and happy with your own attitute, and that nobody should be able to change it. For example:
A man or a woman cheated on her man/his woman. Everybody said as long he/she doesn´t do it with me. I said, if he/she does it with others, they would do it with me as well. Demand a certain attitute in your friends. I don´t allow certain things just because they are friends. Friendship to me is not opportunism. It´s about happines and true loyalty. It´s not about having someone to defend me, having my own clan!! It´s about happines for others and myself. It´s not about making others unhappy with the support of "friends". Learn from what you see, and be honest with yourself. Dont accept for others what you wouldn´t accept for yourself. It´s tough, and lots of times you will be lonely. But this way you learn to appreciate and have the courage to prefer quality over quantity. You will learn what you probably laugh about now, but sometimes less is more :-)
Hmmm… i think it depends on what possibilities there are regarding friendship. As for me i take it slow. I can also fall in love with a person without even seeing her in real. It´s of what she says. Should i feel insecure, i confront her. Depending on her answers and the way of behaviour while answering, i judge. It´s no use forcing a person to say what we want to hear. We must be able to judge, whether it´s coming from the heart, or is it just what we want to hear. When i was very young, i did not care about relationships. Regarding friends, it´s exactly the same way you have already experienced. Watching people, hear them talk, see them behave, does it match? Should i feel suspect about something, i wait till same behaviour is being repeated. I take my time, asking, watching, listening etc… I must know when to listen to my heart, when to my mind. Self honesty is too important. The best way to learn is unfortunately the worst one. From bad experiences. Sometimes we just want to believe in a person, even though we know it´s not right. But even after 100 years, there will never be 100% guarantee that we really know a person well! i have learned if we look, we never find. I have hobbies keeping me busy not to think of relationships all the time. Taking it easy, not being in a rush, no pressure. Sometimes i had the problem to chose between more than one woman i believed in :-)