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You smile. She smiles back. Your hands are sweaty and you’re nervous, but you want to talk to her. You say, “Hello.” She says, “Hi.” Now what?
Flirting is a fun and exciting to way to show someone that you’re interested in them, but it’s done differently across cultures.
Listen to John and I talk about flirting in America.
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2. Study - Read the dialog again to see how the vocab words are used.
John: So, Dave, I heard you chaired a panel on intercultural flirting the other day.
Dave: Yeah, I did. It was kind of funny. It was a bunch of Saudi students and Japanese students, and they wanted to know about American flirting rituals.
John: Were they looking for pointers on how to flirt while here in the U.S?
Dave: Yeah, pretty much. Um, like, the Saudi students, they wanted to know, if they see a girl at a bus stop, how can they get her phone number?
John: So, what kind of advice did you give?
Dave: Ah, I gave pointers on, you know, being perceptive, looking at what a girl is wearing, what she’s carrying, give a compliment, make eye contact. Make her comfortable. Like, you can’t ask, right off, “Do you have a boyfriend?”
John: There probably isn’t any magic line to it, but just being able to start a normal conversation with somebody is the best way.
Dave: And staying away from pick up lines. Those are funny, but they don’t really work.
John: No, I’ve never seen a pick up line work.
John: Besides making someone laugh.
John: Well, like, what’s one of your favorites?
Dave: “Your father must have been a thief, because he stole the stars and put them in your eyes.”
John: How about, “If I could rewrite the alphabet, I’d put U and I together.”
Dave: “You must be really tired, because you’ve been running through my mind all day.”
John: That’s good.
Flirting with someone can be really fun and exciting. It’s a lot like playing a little game. You have to know how to play if you want it to be exciting. The most important thing is to be natural but playful. Also, try not to be too pushy or creepy. And, stay away from pick up lines. They’re funny, but they don’t really work.
For your own amusement, here are some funny English pick up lines.
“I hope you have a map because I get lost in your eyes.”
“Did the sun just come out, or did you just smile at me?”
“Do you have a quarter? My mom told me to call her when I fell in love.”
What pick up lines do you know? What are the flirting rituals in your country?