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Crush on a Friend

Date: Oct 05 2007

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Have you ever been out with a friend, someone you see all the time and never thought of dating, and suddenly that person looks really good to you? You never noticed it before, but now that you think about it, your friend is hot. And you’re already friends so you know you get along. You start to wonder: is my friend attracted to me too? What if we had a relationship together?

Amanda asks her friend Mason what he does when he has a crush on a friend. What do you think is really on Amanda’s mind? Why is she asking Mason about this?

Dialog

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Amanda

Mason

Amanda: Mason?

Mason: Um-hm.

Amanda: Have you ever had a crush on a friend?

Mason: Tons!

Amanda: And what do you do about it?

Mason: Uh…

Amanda: Do you take action?

Mason: Sometimes. Little bit of column A, a little bit of column B.

Amanda: So what are some of the factors that determine whether or not you share your crush or just keep it bottled inside and cry at home in the corner?

Mason: Well one, it depends on how sober I am at the time. A lot. Two, sometimes it just feels like there’s a moment there and you gotta make a play. Sometimes it just kind of stays in the background forever.

Amanda: Do you think that you have to pick up on some vibe from them to share it with them? Or, do you think that when you have a crush you just share it with the world, get it off your back…

Mason: No.

Amanda: …move on with your life. Now she knows.

Mason: No. Not in general. It’s not just a like…It’s not like a résumé or something. It’s not like, “Hey, you know what I did today? I had a crush on you.” It’s not like, “I picked up a new CD at Target.” No.

Amanda: I think that it could be that way. I think that it’s kind of cool to share that feeling with anyone.

Mason: Well that’s because you want to have tabs on everybody.

Amanda: Just…why not let them know, so that it’s in their court and they can do whatever they want? Why not let them know?

Mason: What if they don’t like me anymore?

Amanda: Then you know they don’t like you. Then it’s done. You move on. Right?

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Discussion

Mason says that he has had crushes on a lot of his friends, and sometimes he acts on those crushes and sometimes he doesn’t. Naturally, if he’s drunk, he’s more inclined to act on the crush than if he’s sober.

He also says that sometimes there is a moment that seems like the perfect time to make a move. But other times, he never does anything about his crush.

Amanda asks if Mason would ever tell a friend he has a crush on her just to get it off his chest. He says he doesn’t think that’s a very good idea because you don’t know if your friend feels the same way.

Have you ever had a crush on a friend? Do you think that Amanda is secretly trying to tell Mason that she has a crush on him?

Comments

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ｗＡｒ＾＾Ｙｕ

Croatia

halo

see-wave

Yemen

I live with mind not with my heart

GieKEy

Thailand

haha

tatiana621

Peru

at least you can say: Dude was a joke haha…

rohal

Pakistan

CatcheR

Indonesia

I didn’t wish to have a crush on anybody, but I had once crushed on my friend, sorry I didn’t mean really, but I just keep my feeling thought, I know she likes me lol

Ryo

Saudi Arabia

I just had read some comments and I do not understand what the risk of being a freind with the one u love

ola33

Canada

I have a crush on English :)) … language ;)

Ryo

Saudi Arabia

I never been Crush to anybody.

if someone crush in you doesnt necessarily mean that he love you
and if someone loved you does not necessarily he crush in you .

Andie7

Colombia

Well, I did have a crush on one of my friends, but I haven’t told him anything, It’s a little difficult to share my emotions

julito

Argentina

SIAf, Hello, a real friend is like the blood that comes to the wound without waiting to be called. Quevedo. nice definition of a real friend. :))))

Crizsearch

Indonesia

I agree dear Irene and dear Mahtab, It’s very common to hear Ex lover , but not ex friend . Despite being ex It’s better to keep boundary between friends. I mean yes it’s alright to hang out and get close but don’t let the strings attached :D

alvinwenfa@gmail.com

China

Friends are friends, never lost, keep with them

alvinwenfa@gmail.com

China

Friends are friends, never lost, keep with them

Petraa

Croatia

I think realationship with a friend is not good idea… on the end I think it would not succeed. Btw: I can not imagine myself with my best friend ://

Irene Forever

Ukraine

Here are two quotes that are very true:

He taught me how to love,
but not how to stop.

~ Unknown ~

Love is like heaven, but it can hurt like hell.

~ Unknown ~

Mahtab.bp

Iran, Islamic Republic Of

Its better we dont accept close relationship with our friends because when LOVE goes away, there will not be friendship.

We could be friends for long time but after having broken hearts you cant keep your friendship.

Then …. Friendship is stronger than LOVE!

Irene Forever

Ukraine

It’s very common when friendship grows into love. And we can have a crush on our friend. To fall in mutual love is not less common. And we can be happy.

We never know the real feelings of the partner. He can say the things, he doesn’t really feel. It’s very painful to love, but not to be loved. While suffering we understand that our love was doomed to failure from the first moment. However we go on loving in spite of the coldness of our friend.

To be fixed on the idea to make a friend fall in love with us, we make a bad mistake and push him farther. What result do we have? We don’t become lovers, but we stop being friends.

There is another situation between friends who fall in love and after that, because of different reasons, try to become friends again.

As for me, it’s impossible. If I love, my feelings are not a game, and I can’t change myself in order to become cold and indifferent.

So I don’t need any relations which are supposed to be just a cruel game.