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Honeymoon. Period.

Honeymoon. Period.

Date: Nov 16 2007

Themes: Romance

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In the United States, on your wedding day you say, “Till death do us part,” meaning that you will love that person until you die. But more than half of marriages here end in divorce. What happens after the wedding day to make things fall apart?

This was a popular forum topic recently. Listen to Marni and Devan talk about what they think happens to love after marriage.

Dialog

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Marni

Marni

Devan

Devan

Marni:  You know, you’re in a relationship, especially, I think, if you get married, it’s like, you’re seeing someone, or you’re married, you’re in this relationship, you’re so in love and after a while…do you think…it just seems like…things…kind of…fizzle.

Devan:  That’s why I’m afraid to get married.

Marni:  I know! It seems like…what happens when that happens? And does it? There’s that expression, “The honeymoon phase” of a relationship. At first you’re all excited but then…I don’t know…you just get so complacent.

Devan:  Do you think that it’s because they’re not in love anymore or they’re just comfortable? Do think it becomes more comfortable and less passionate?

Marni:  I think love changes. I mean, I think that part of being in a really good relationship is being comfortable with the fact that you’re not, like, super hot and heavy and all excited, you know, about each other. But then I also think, like, well, wow, so many people I know cheat on…you know, you hear about that all the time. Is that because love fades? Or is it just the excitement of something new?

Devan:  I think it’s kind of both.

Marni:  It’s kind of depressing, isn’t it?

Devan:  It is kind of depressing. I don’t think I’m ever gonna get married. I want to stay in the honeymoon phase forever.

Marni:  Yeah. Exactly. It’s not possible.

 

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Discussion

It takes a minute for Marni to get around to saying the sad truth. That so often, love fades after marriage. Devan says that that’s why marriage scares her.

People talk about the honeymoon phase of a relationship. A honeymoon is a vacation taken after a wedding. It’s worry-free, but temporary. A lot of times, relationships are like that too. They’re fun for a while, but the fun ends.

Devan wonders if love actually disappears after a while or if it merely seems to because people just get more comfortable with each other.

Marni says that she thinks love changes. That part of what it means to be in a lasting relationship is accepting that it may not be extremely passionate all the time.

But, nonetheless, many people in seemingly happy relationships choose to cheat. It may be the attraction of something new, or it may be the disappearance of love. Or both.

Why do you think love often seems to disappear after a while? What’s the best way to keep a relationship passionate?

 

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Djana

Djana

Algeria

I think sometimes there is no real love,i mean two persons know each other for a short time,and like each other ,than decide to get married! They’re not really sure of their feelings,and after marriage everything goes in a different directions,they no more like each other,and the whole problems come out,and ruin everything…it’s all about the choices we make,after we take a step forward we’ve to be fully aware of what we’re about to do.Marriage is a great responsibility,and never an easything,for me,if i ever decide to get married,i’ll make sure that this the right person that i want to spend the rest of my life with,cause we’ll have children,and lots of things to share together,and the most thing is to be so understanding,and not after any quarrel or sth else,i go away,No life is full of problems,and to survive and to have a better life with those we love,we’ve got to face these problems no matter how big they might be,and try to solve them.


08:13 AM May 16 2016 |

mohamma

mohamma

Iran, Islamic Republic Of

True love,is everything

12:35 AM Apr 08 2016 |

sara1998

sara1998

Iran, Islamic Republic Of

I think true love never disappears but nowadays it’s hard to find your love and people usually fall in love because of beauty while inside beauty is much more important and after a short period boys and girls find out that they can’t be together any more because they have various personalities!

10:14 AM Mar 06 2014 |

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a2020

a2020

Iran, Islamic Republic Of

I think because love fades,because love can loose its colour,people always want new things,i think it  is really difficult to restrain from these glamorous things out there! but i  think God is the true love.and it never fades.


Maybe the things like trying new things,exercising some self control,believing in God,care about each other and telling to your significant other that you love her/him are practical.

01:04 PM Jul 06 2013 |

Anuheh

Anuheh

Iran, Islamic Republic Of

3 rules in a relationship: Don’t lie, don’t cheat and don’t make promises you can’t keep

04:56 AM Jun 21 2013 |

Anuheh

Anuheh

Iran, Islamic Republic Of

I think falling in love is too easy! but staying in love is sth else!

04:38 AM Jun 21 2013 |

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United States

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04:10 PM Jun 12 2013 |

abdullah201933

Saudi Arabia

honestly who can live without the love? its diffecult be alone especially when u love at the first time omg! really what can i say all thy guys when they loves look at them cant focus and cant talk alot always his thinking with his lovely really its dream when ur love be close from u especially when u live in fall love cant describe the position when they hug each other its fantastic love means the beace and the life cant be movede without it..

01:21 PM Apr 20 2013 |

jblpakistan

Pakistan

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08:27 AM Apr 20 2013 |

DaeNg

DaeNg

Thailand

The honeymoon period doesn’t work if the couple lost of love  each other anymore . The only consistency of association and friendship have to help them in love forever.

05:30 AM Apr 20 2013 |

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Abusaib

Abusaib

Sudan

I think it was been good time and period of love?


11:10 AM Dec 07 2012 |

ana.p94231

ana.p94231

India

I believe that, Love never disappears…. it is always around us… we have to make it appear in any situations in lyf… other important part is ‘Trust’ the most important part in any relationship. If there is no trust then this can be one of the reasons of ups and downs… true love n trust can keep your relationship passionate…:)       

07:03 AM Jun 15 2012 |

bonnierhett

China

I just do not believe in marriage   never ever ,that’s totally  stupid thing in this world   and I do not know  what is LOVE mean  and how to love someone  I’m a idiot

07:21 PM May 18 2012 |

samirah

samirah

Saudi Arabia

I think love dosent fade away after honeymoon, but passion level may fall away or even fade away!

09:44 AM Apr 22 2012 |

snow l

snow l

Iran, Islamic Republic Of

true love never ends,it’s mutual understanding and respect!

02:23 AM Apr 18 2012 |

1 person likes this

marstanf

marstanf

Argentina

I think there is some confusion between the terms “being in love” and “to love someone”. Being in love is easy and demands no effort, it brings out only the best in ourselves and in our beloved. But being passionately in love, or living the honymoon phase can only last so long.


After the passion quiets down a bit, is the time for true love to flourish. This means loving even when you do see your spouses’ faults and irritating habits.


If we can learn to do that, and honor the promise given at the altar, we shall have a good marriage.


We cannot expect to live eternally in the honeymoon phase, but we can have a happy marriage if we accept that love doesn’t mean the same as passion.


08:05 PM Apr 08 2012 |

2 people like this

kirthik sree

India

hai dear

11:12 PM Mar 01 2012 |

idrissever

idrissever

Turkey

Love doesn’t disappear. If something disappeears, it’s not love. 

02:42 AM Dec 31 2011 |

vioslove

vioslove

United States

There is not a “recipe” to keep a relationship passionate. All depends on how much loves each other, understand their obligations, they follow the rules of God in marriage, and really want to be togethet for better and for the worse their whole life.

06:12 PM Nov 15 2011 |

Kotisha

Kotisha

Russian Federation

I agree that love fades after marriage. Unfortunately it is the sad truth. Couples get used to each other very much during their cohabitation. They know everything about each other it becomes boring. That is why a husband or a wife start cheating. They try to find those hot and heavy feelings that they had before. 


03:22 AM Aug 20 2011 |

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