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Talking to Strangers

Talking to Strangers

Date: Jan 28 2011

Themes: Friend

Grammar: First Conditional

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One rule that almost everyone learns as a child is “Don’t talk to strangers.” But when you get older, being able to approach someone you don’t know and start a conversation becomes a good skill to have. Talking to strangers makes you a social, outgoing person.

But some adults still don’t like talking to strangers. If you aren’t in the mood to talk, it can be annoying if a stranger comes up to you and tries start a conversation with you. Ella loves to chat with people she doesn’t know, but Amy prefers to keep to herself. Find out why.

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Ella

Ella

Amy

Amy

Ella:  So growing up, you know, one of the main rules as a kid is to never talk to strangers, right? But I feel like I talk to strangers every day, and I learn more about them than I’m supposed to, especially in my career.

Amy:  But you don’t just go up to people on the street and start a conversation out of the blue, do you?

Ella:  Well, if I like what they’re wearing I’ll be like “Oh, where’d you get that?” I think it’s easier for girls to approach girls and guys. But when a guy does it, you just get completely creeped out.

Amy:  It’s true, it can be creepy. Have you ever started talking to a stranger and just become fast friends with them?

Ella:  I do that a lot on the airplane, ‘cause you’re in such confined spaces.

Amy:  That’s so true.

Ella:  You know, there’s layovers. Like, “Hey, do you want to get a cup of coffee? I don’t know your name, but I don’t care ‘cause we’ll never see each other again.” So you get close pretty quick. I’ve done that many times.

Amy:  Do you have a particular icebreaker or anything that you use when you’re starting to talk to a stranger?

Ella:  I remember one time, this girl sitting next to me on the plane happened to have the same magazine. Or I try to find similarities first.

Amy:  See, I’m sort of the opposite. When I’m like on a plane or the bus or whatever, I do not want people to talk to me. I just have my book, and I just want to be left alone, and, you know, sometimes it’s not true but for the most part, I still follow the rule of don’t talk to strangers.

 

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Ella likes talking to strangers and does it all the time. She often starts conversations with people she doesn’t know when she’s traveling on an airplane, but sometimes she says things to strangers she passes on the street, too. She thinks a good way to break the ice with a stranger is to point out something you both have in common, or to give the stranger a compliment.

Amy disagrees with Ella. She doesn’t like talking to strangers. Sometimes she even gets annoyed if someone she doesn’t know tries to start a conversation with her. Both Amy and Ella agree that when guys approach girls they don’t know and try to start a conversation, it can be a little creepy.

Do you like talking to strangers? Are you outgoing, or do you prefer to keep to yourself?

 

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Thyphuong

Thyphuong

Viet Nam

 I used to be afraid to talk to strangers when I was a kid  because rumor about child kidnapping around my neighborhood that made my parents very worried , so they kept reminding me never talk to strangers when I am alone. Now that I have grown up, I have changed my thinking and I feel it’s fun to talk to strangers .

11:44 PM Oct 25 2014 |

mahbubeh92

mahbubeh92

Iran, Islamic Republic Of

I NEVER START TAILKING TO A STRANGER..unless i wanna ask something important..

03:54 AM May 30 2014 |

a2020

a2020

Iran, Islamic Republic Of

If  i am in the mood  i like to talk to strangers because human is social,i am not that much outgoing but  i can say i am outgoing but sometimes  i like to keep to myself.

10:25 AM Jan 18 2014 |

yousefkohpeyma

Iran, Islamic Republic Of

Well, I think not talking to strangers is confined to children, since they are taught‏ ‎ to act‏ this way. Personally, when I’m on an airplane or a bus travelling, long hours in particular, I would prefer it is me breaking the ice and talk to strangers next to me, if I find them on board, indeed. I get tired easily by doing a same thing while I’m on the way. What’s more, I’m a gregarious person, mainly that’s why I choose to do so. Generally, I think it’s a better world talking to strangers with which we can learn more things. ‏

02:10 AM Oct 19 2013 |

Marcelolic

Marcelolic

Brazil

Humm it depends,I talk to strangers if they give me some “opnenig” to approach them,otherwise not :P


But I always try to be nice with all people to approach to me,but not always too hahaha :D

03:21 PM Aug 24 2013 |

kowatch

kowatch

Hungary

I don’t like to talk strangers when I travel on bus or train. I can avoid that somebody starts conversation with me by using mp3 player and headphones. 


But when I get in a new company I can be outgoing, sometimes make friends fast.

05:54 AM Feb 23 2013 |

Hossam_bounab

Algeria

If I don’t talk to strangers,,how am I supposed to make friends !!! o.O

08:47 AM Feb 22 2013 |

DominikLi

DominikLi

China

I feel nervous when talking to strangers,especially pretty boys.But once we got familiarity,the problem disappear~

05:21 AM Jan 19 2013 |

DarknessLight

Bahrain

I absolutely dislike talking to strangers, I become super nervous when it happens, that’s why I try to avoid it as much as I can. I find it a lot easier to break the ice with girls my age though. So I guess I’m more reclusive than outgoing.

09:55 AM Nov 04 2012 |

bonnierhett

China

Me either,talking with strangers maybe excited at first,later on  , you even don’t know what to say .thinking about if he or she likes to talk with you or not. that’t awful。。。actually I don’t how to start a conversation with stranger  , kinda random  to me  

09:40 PM May 18 2012 |

iron guy

iron guy

Hong Kong

i think talking to strangers it helps people live in harmony, when we talk that mean we communicate with others,let people meet each other, share each other…mostly we will respect each other. so i really think so, we should’t care about that word ’’strangers’’ we should focus on how to make strangers become your friends. when we’re born, we don’t know who can trust expcet parent,,so i think we should try more new thing, because we normally all have filtering system to distinguish what right & wrong. in conculsion, talking to strangers is a gd experienceSmile



01:00 PM May 13 2012 |

fabsir

fabsir

Brazil

I am more like Amy. I sort of get annoyed when a total stranger comes up to me and starts a conversation like we had met before. It is not like I get creeped out if someone approaches me for information about where a place is located or something but I just like keeping to myself when I´m on the bus or somewhere. Especially if it is a city or place I have never been to. There´s so much violence about these days that you´re never too cautious.

12:40 PM Apr 30 2012 |

yolanda880130

Philippines

there is saying like:lie to your friends but talk to strangers.i don’t know if it’s true,but sometimes i do talk to strangers like there’s certain things i don’t really wanna talk to friends.


and before we have conversation,i am a stranger to he\she too,so no worries if they are strangers;)

07:40 AM Apr 06 2012 |

kotlesya

kotlesya

Belarus

Julito, as I understood you correctly you are talking to yourself while you are in bus, train etc, because they don’t listen you?Frown

05:49 AM Apr 06 2012 |

 julito

julito

Argentina

Lesya,  I might be that people see in you  a trustworthy face  and  feel  the necessity to strike a conversation with you and not be letdown. 


I like to talk to strangers  in the bus, train ,etc.  most of the time ,people stare at me with indifference and that´s the end  of the story.  

04:51 AM Apr 06 2012 |

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kotlesya

kotlesya

Belarus

“Don’t talk to strangers” is the main rule children must to follow. Ella is right when we are growing up this rule is gradually evaporating.


I have no fear or complex to ask someone on the street about the route I need to go etc. in case I’m in the new place. 


Usually I never start conversation myself with a stranger in the train, bus or other public places.


BUT I will always and gladly  support the conversation if stranger needs to talk to someone.


I like to talk to strangers in case they started the conversation. I’ m outgoing person. :)


Nobody  knows why it happens, but very often people start conversation with me on the streets. As a rule these people are not young… they all in the respectful age. Only God knows why do they chose me??? Seems to be something wrong with my face or apprearance. I really don’t know :D It is amusing.


Even my kids ask me:” Mom do you know that man (woman)? Why does she (he) talk to you?”


I say;” Dear, I never met that person before. I got  already used to the fact people like to talk to me”  - my children  get confused thenLaughing

01:31 AM Apr 06 2012 |

maxintel

maxintel

Chad

its dificult thats is true!but all is the result of education when you was kid! your parents must teach you how to be with people,and all time allow you to visit your friend,your family so that you can learn life in society!


 

05:13 AM Oct 13 2011 |

Bruce_zhou

China

Same as someone told before ,what ’s the reason why we come here and learning english,the purpose is that we want meet more and more strangers and via chatting know more about each other,eventually,become friends and creat long term realtionship,as for me,i remember ,when i was a child and study in school, i m afriad tconversation with strangers all because of my family rules,doing anything by myself,my father alway told me don’t make friends and conversation with stangers, because my father worried that i meet bad boy and neglect my school works.after graduated form college and begining work,i suddenly aware that we can not life and work convenience without friends,for now , i m always try to find some stranges and chatting with them and fast become friends with them to improve my english. 

02:42 AM Oct 13 2011 |

King_zero

King_zero

China

OK OK.That’s the same problem of me.Every one is afraid of chatting with  eachothers but sometime ,we should Brave!Yeah Brave .maybe that’s so difficult ,but that’s the best way to break the ice,a happy process .

08:39 PM Oct 12 2011 |

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abu ali UAE

United Arab Emirates

it depends

08:19 PM May 31 2011 |

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