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Yeah,one of my roomate hurt my feeling by saying  i am not  in a good shape at that time.

i think we can give advice for people without hurt thier feelings…...in polite way

so we will advice them and keep our relationship good….

I guess

many people are not able to accept any critism

no matter, it s a hard word or constructive words.

Nowaday so many human are strong in their own abilties

and those don t allow any critism at all

And if somebody say

oh, sorry, you are wrong, these ppl explode with their emotion

In Germany, we have lots of these ppl

and I call them stupid.

when somebody makes things wrong

- and all of us are human – so we are not 100 % , we should accept it.

and when another human say

sorry, it s for bidden to park here, or,

here are  stick, to let the cashier know, your  goods are finished and the next one starts.  95 from 100 people become angry, and say

why it s your reason to say that ?

it s my reason because the cashier shouldn t do that, Her/his boss never ever like it.

So if I have a head for thinking, not for a hairdresser only, I will open my mouth, to protect others

it s simple, but we need what we call  Zivil courage in German.

WWONGSAPUN,  Hello,,, After reading  your post of Jan 7 , I know that   you are  a  person  unable to hurt  somebody´s  feeling..   

Julito!....I understand with you want to suggest me Okay, I will try to do. :D

i love advice special in polite ways ,in perosn ,without felling hurt

WWONGSAPUN.    I believe    that we should never start  with a negative statement. An example:  when trying pointing out  a shortcoming in a person that is learning a new language. we should not say: your  English is very poor. Is better to encourage our friend ,saying : you are learning fast  ,try to speak and read more  ,you will  master the language  quicker .  I think that  this is  what you do.

It’s difficult for say about constructive criticism to someone. Most of people like to hear with sweet word, praise rather than to criticism of it. Often that I try to  seach for a good word to suggest someone to improve with themselves. And aslo, while of my word should to keep a good feeling so which doesn’t hurt feeling to anyone.

He DID hurt the feelings of the fat guy, he made those comments but he really didn´t even care about the fat guy’s health or aparience.

I believe that Dale can to do a lot thing.

I see that it want to add themes for the party.That´s good!:)

I believe Jeff did hurt Dale’s feelings, but constructive criticism does hurt sometimes. Frankly, Jeff made Dale a favour, by telling him the truth and make him aware of what’s really happening to him. 

Personally I have had my feelings hurt too occasionally. Usually I wipe my tears and use my sagacity to compose myself and see what has gone wrong, as I received a constructive criticism. 

Well, I think we’re imperfect and sometimes, even if we don’t intend to do it, we’ll hurt someone’s feelings, with our words or acts…
I have already had my feelings hurt…someone made hurtful comments about me and I didn’t like it! Later,I realized I needed that comments to change myself! They were useful! But the secret is in the way you express yourself, your opinion and in what do you think about something or someone! 

Yes. And what is especially  offensive, I believed those who just easily betrayed my feelings.

Now I am different. I know how to protect myself from such people. I taught myself to be cleverer in relations and to love myself.

The best way to feel protected is to love and to trust those people who have the same feelings towards us.

 
 But i   didnt  say    it  to  get  help   Or support .

Snoopyboy:

Very wise answer to Ryo!

Ryo:

My heart with u

Ryo, it’s a good thing you joined this website. Here, you will get all kind of  supports you need.Your opinions are welcomed anytime,  you can express yourself freely. We don’t judge people here, we interact with people.But we only have words, and we understand it must be tough what you are enduring.Remain strong. I personally was a very rebelious kid, I have my life to live and can nobody live it for me.. period.

@Ryo , god with you really but i expect from you doing something can save you from all this misery – you can do it girl so common 

actually , while you just do something wrong  or said the inappropriate words with people , maybe it will hurt somebody’s felling , but in my wiew ,it also depends .

i mean , if the one you talked to is your best friend , and when she/he do wrong things ,you can speak in patience  to her/him ,but with positive tones and words. and just told her/him what’s your feeling and you can point the mistakes her/him made . because they are your best friends, and you must guide them in the right way when they were mislead . otherwise ,you will also learn something from others .

hurt someone’s feeling ,it may make one feel bad , even more can let someone hate you . so how to deal with that ?

i with the suggestion that you can show your feeling and use positive way ,and it also depends on different situations. if you toward someone you are familiar ,you can point the mistakes they made . if not ,you must be a little polite with saying something ,or with suggestion tone .

however ,it may occur sometimes that you hurt someone you didn’t know . if it came to that situation , you must learn to see clearly with others emotion , because it is the way to make friend or communicating .

afterall , people sometimes are weak in dealing something ,especially in emotion . so be patience ,be sincere ,that is the right way to make friends.

yes of course. I mean the answer is yes. I’m pretty sure everyone got his feelings hurt at least once in a while. People are being blunt when you don’t expect it and it’s sad I think but what can you do? just try to move on and don’t take it too seriously. But I have to admit that constructive criticism can be quite a positive thing…just one has to know how to accept it. It comes with the lapse of time though…

Yes.I remember one time I got back together with my ex-bf whom my sister hates a lot.When she found out that day,she refused to talk to me no matter how hard I tried.She wouldn’t listen to any of my words.I felt pretty sad because we were on such a great terms all the time and things like this never happened before.My feelings were badly hurt.I just couldn’t help crying. Although deep down inside I know what she had done was for my own good.Finally I came to realize that he is not my guy,not a good choice for me.So I ended up breaking up with him .