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An invitation of intimacy

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July 18, 2009


I feel at big loss,I lost right to contact an worthy, generous, & talented friend because I hurt her feelings.

She enlighted my path of life by her bold,clear,truthful & religious messgas but I feel that I made an hole in the utansil I ate or like killed the hen that gave an egg of gold every day in greediness of having all the eggs at once.

I met with the very common fate of friendship that happens between a male & a female.

The most common fate is that when both are in search of a partner & they fall in love & friendship turns into a love affair.

& 2nd is that they don't find any understanding & get separated & friendship is lost. or they try to use each other for their puposes & decive each other & friendship turns into a relation of eneminess.

I have come to realize that friendship may continue only in the people of oppositte sexes when both have a state of mind of 'beyond sex' which is easy foe a woman but difficult for a man because of the existential behaviour, as woman's role is pasive in sexual bhaviour & man's sexual behviour is aggressive.

But rare are the woman who are aware of this fact  & they keep love & sex away from their syllabus but most the women  become prey of love & hate & hence friendship meet the common fate.

But to continiue  friendlyness man should be able to think beyond sex & friendship ends when sex or love comes inbetween & unfrtunatly I fall in that catgory & lost the most preciuos friendship who gave a lot of clearities.

Here I feel missing religion in my life,had I met real religion & gone beyond sex just by decision instead of travelling so long & gaining nothing.I feel envoy to Hakimi,Blink,gkissberth & Nupogodi.

But me is me & I can't change my place,what i can do is learn but I have paid the highest price of learning & shall never be able to coponsate that friendship.It's a permanent loss.  


It could the toughest heat treatment needed for purification,any way I respect & welcome both but I am joyful that I got more clearity & came more near to the TRUTH.

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09:08 AM Feb 20 2011



Hello Devinder,
today i had some time and entered to your page too. And I have read your writing. I am so sorry that you lost your friend but the life is going on. Living is not to have sex or with your vocabulary looking for "behind sex". There are more things in the life, which can make you happy. You know the life is very short. You can los a friend but you can find also a new friend. Both of them are possibly in our life. life is to be lived. I hope you are okay at the moment and enjoy your time. Have a nice time, Till later

10:06 AM Jul 19 2009



hi dev,

it must be intitled:"my humanity"!we are all humans and we learn more from our own experiences.those relations are not easy to handle and we must respect others' feelings and give them a space to be themselves.we have to understand  ours' and others' natures, too.we never lose a real friendship,it just changes the shape.

all of us have their own limits and they are not the same from a culture,a religion and a person to another.this can lead to a misunderstanding and can drive us to show the limits clearly.it's life!we are just learning and the real learner is the one who gets out of his personal desires and see clearly beyond his/her strong ego.

may god enlightened your way,

my best wishes