Don't Give Me Bad Romance

(reposting from http://springentries.blogspot.com) 

Have you ever found yourself in a situation wherein you are about to explode after almost a mind-blowing foreplay when suddenly, your partner will say," Oh gosh, I'm coming!", and then pffft. You lost your own shot at nirvana. Afterwards, you have no other option but to smile and say,"Yeah, baby, that was good."

If men are mind-readers, then probably few women will lose their chance to have a titillating orgasm while having hot sex. Unfortunately, either they're too absorbed in their own prowess in the bedroom, or they're complete morons. Take your pick.

A lot of women are still in the shadows, figuring out how to get a good time while in bed. According to several readings, one way to make your man do WHAT you want to do, is do the "I" statements. Tell him what you want him to do first, and savor every moment that he does it. Sounds kinky? As long as you're not using off-the-wall words, or belittling or berating his "weapon", you'll be off in ecstasy in no time.

Another is to talk to your man first before you actually do it. Tell him what you want. Tell him what you think would make you tick. Now, if he's thick enough not to notice that, then it's time for you to hit the sack instead (unless throwing him out of the street is the better option!).

Tame the bull in him. Rein in first before he starts to dive in. If you're not ready, think of other means to make the lovemaking long enough for you to get ready.

One suggestion that I have read in a n article  is to use "love" tools - porn movies, sex toys, or whatever kinky costume you have in the closet. Use them to tickle your own fantasy, and let him join the fun. According to research, men actually find using these options as adventurous and makes the lovemaking longer, and more enjoyable.

So, in this love month, and you're planning to tumble the sheets of your bed with your partner, get up and tell him straight in the face what you want - definitely not bad romance.