Putting up with Misdirected Pigeonholes

Okay, so this is how it goes. In our daily existential drifts we occasionally run into experiences that are relatively simple and ordinary yet broad and intellectually exigent as a subject for deliberation. This is the phenomenon that sometimes drags us into thinking that we should write a book about this or that. Whatever or wherever that strange motivation comes from, I think it has something to do with our encounter with the spontaneity of diverse incidents and observations happening at such a short span of time. It is some kind of a logic-emotion collision happening in the brain, a mixture of random impulses sending the neurons into a psychosomatic frenzy blah blah blah….

            Have you ever been held responsible for an act you never did? How would you feel? Well, an outrage would be an understatement. I find it hard to understand why I should deserve such an unwarranted treatment or anybody for that matter.

            Defining people according to simplified categories dates back to antiquity, and is probably an intrinsic part of human cultures. Traditional myths, rituals and dramas routinely employed identifiable types, but they usually symbolized different aspects of humanity overall. Typingcasting is not at all100% negative, we know that for sure as sometimes portrayed in the media. Unfortunately, I happen to often encounter the less positive ones, or shall we say the unconstructive.

            Being a guy, I love expressing myself like one. Let us take the scenario of a social gathering, a party or any kind of gathering. If I talk with a stranger, a girl or groups of girls, they find it really easy to mistake me as James Bond looking for a midnight exercise. That metaphor might sound ridiculous or funny but true. You might not notice it at first but you can see their thoughts surely by their reactions outright or soon after. All this is happening because you stepped outside the manner they abide by, assumed or perceived. This is considered stereotyping. It happens everyday and no one knows how far it dates back because it is…well human nature. All humans have this natural feeling and use it most frequently, but sometimes it can go too far.

            I might have unfairly pointed this issue to the females as what my example implied a while ago. It goes the same with the guys; it even goes more excessive and downright dirty. I won’t deal with that since guys have the natural tendency to be rude and offensive, and when laid bare to the other party they often settle it out with blackeyes and bruises, no need to elaborate on that. What interest me are the females typecasting their opposites. In my experience and observations, some females already have this perceived personality of you even before you get to know them. There’s this one particular girl I met, she’s quite nice when I talked to her, but what she said to her girlfriends about me was discomforting, lucky for me I know one of her acquaintances. Aha!

            Its true that our experiences from the past gives us this impulse to prejudge but it is not at all fair to the person or persons you have thought wrongly about. “You are just an average guy, playing about!” Oh, crap! I can’t bear to hear that upfront, but I did and I wasn’t able to talk for an hour. Ha ha.

    No matter how nice and congenial your approach maybe, with this kind of thought, you go down nonetheless.