Joy Garden ;)

All of us have dreams, each dream is seed, seeds need time to grow up, and a lot of care to see the light.

when you plant a seed in the ground, and add some water to ensure that its life begin, you don't expect that you will see it growing up with green leaves within an hour or a day. It need some time, not short time. And the same way, every thing you do in your life, needs some time, needs  you to be be patient, to continue taking care about your seeds, be patient cause your seeds will see the light in no time, just be patient.

 Some people, and i was one of them unfortunately, don't have that patient, and that's too bad. 'Cause when you don't have that patient, here what will happen: you will have an idea, a dream, a goal in your life, no matter what it is, and you want it to see the light, you'll plant that seed, start taking care of it, give it the water and the warm that it need, but you don't see anything, you start doubt, why i don't see it, you continue taking care of it, and in this time your seed is making its way up to the light, but what you think is that's it wont, but it's on its way, and time will make you see it, but unfortunately, you stop caring and you think that you fail to do it. But all what you had to do is some patience, and your seed was going to see the light, maybe it was a 1 cm to go out of the ground, and you doubt!, killing it before its dawn. and the seed will go to the zero point, you may replant it, thinking that something will change this time, and you start, all over again, from the beginning, and you start it all over again, and when your patience run out, you stop it again, and so on, wasting a lot of time on the same part of natural process, and what a big waste! while you can get it to the surface by some patience.

So make sure that you always and forever give your seeds their time, every thing in this world need some time, and let's take you as the best example; let's talk about your journey, the beginning of you.

You know that you, all of you, start as a single cell in the uterus of your mother, then you became two cells, four cells, eight, a small ball of cells, you stuck on the wall of your mother's uterus and start growing up, days and weeks we start to see you as an embryo, then you, months later, you start to look like a human being, after nine months, you came to this world, a cute beautiful baby :)

See this journey that bring you to this world was not short, it was nine months, so you was in the uterus for nine months, tell me now, did you ever start a project, a book, a study plan, or any thing, and waited nine months before you judge it! and let's say three months not nine! So you should know that when you start a dream, and you don't give it its time, you will abort it from the  uterus of time, before its time, before you see it in the real world! and that's not fair.

So every thing, every valuable thing like you for example, needs time, time to be born, so don't abort your seed before its time, be patient as your parents was. (imagine this: after a month from your mother pregnancy of you, your father tell your mother; it takes so much time and i'm out of patience, we will abort this child, oops! that will not be good for you i think ;)

And, as i thin, you will ask, why we don't have this patient these times, why when one of us hold a book to read it, get boring after some pages, not all of course, why we can watch a movie with three hours without complaining, and no one can read that time, why?

why do you think, we can play for hours, but study for one, we can talk for a day with a friend, but a minute with our books, why we can stay all the day on Facebook, and get boring after one minute on Wiki encyclopedia, for example, why?

 It's all about how we trained our brains, how we feed them and how we teach them to act,

To make it easy to understand i will explain something for you. In Medicine we learned that in our bodies there is something called; "Feedback Mechanisms" there is negative and positive feedback mechanisms, and in some how you will see that those feedback mechanisms do exist in our real world, as they already exist within our inner world.

How?

First, what is negative and positive feedback mechanisms. If you have a domestic central hating system in your house, the thermostat (temperature detector) is sensitive ti changes in room temperature (variable factor). The thermostat is connected to the boiler control unit (control center), which control the boiler (effector). The thermostat constantly compares the information from the detector with the present temperature, and, when necessary, adjustments are made to alter the room temperature.

In other words, when the room temperature is low, the system warm the room, until the temperature reach a certain level, where the system stop warming the room (negative)  and so on. That's the negative feedback mechanisms,in your body there is a lot of examples, Temperature, Blood glucose levels, and Blood pressure... you may ask what am i talking about, well, i will tell you just be patient and go on.

Now the  positive feedback mechanisms, you see in the  negative feedback mechanisms, the factor the cause the control center to take action, cause this action to be ended when this factor reach the already set point, for example, the warming of the room will stop when the room temperature reach a selected point, that why we call it negative feedback. now in the positive feedback mechanisms, that doesn't happen, and what happen is that the action taken by the control center, because of some kind of factor, will always increase and increase by the same factor, till something else happen and stop this cycle, i.e the stimulus progressively increase the response, so that as long as the stimulus is continued, the response is progressively being amplified. And this mechanism will stop amplifying the response only when the stimulus is no longer exist. In your body there is just some of these mechanisms, the best example is you, when your time birth came, your head, your big head, stimulus your mother's uterus to contract, to push you out of it, and as long as your head, your big hear ;), is still there the contraction of your mother's uterus will be amplified, till you go out of it, then the contractions will stop, 'cause it's not needed any more.

 Now, let's talk about these feedback in our real world, and see how it works.

When you start reading a book, you get boring, so as long as you read, as long as your boring is amplified, so your boring will not stop till you throw the book away, that's a positive feedback mechanism. the reason of this situation, you didn't train your self to read and enjoy what you read, so you feel better when you on Facebook or when you watching a movie, so when you fell better you continue with this, no matter how much precious time you waste, also + feedback. You go to run, or any sport but i like to run, and when you feel tired, you stop it and don't go for run again, negative feedback mechanism. In other world, in our life there s a lot of these examples about these bad habits we do everyday.

The solution is the same as the problem, use these feedback mechanisms. how, to read more, pick up at first a funny book, or any kind of books you find best for you, start reading, and enjoy what you read, start by some pages so you don't get boring, never read so much 'cause you have to enjoy, now you've enjoyed, next time read more, you will enjoy more, read, enjoy, and here we are again with a + feedback mechanism, but a good one, like this example, try to train yourself with what you find a bad habit in your life, and don't forget that every thing need some time, every step you take need times.

So what you may find a good step to start with, try to start a Joy Garden, pick up the things that you enjoy the most, and start a joy garden with them, i already started mine ;)

and with some time, you will find out that you have a beautiful garden, but, Be Patient ;)