parsamary

Being myself or being a good girl If you are an Iranian, you are better to be a man. although I love being a girl by itself my environment has made me uneasy about it. let me explain why I feel this way. I did not have problem being a girl in my childhood .it was a great time for me because there was nothing different between me as a girl and a boy. as I grew up I came to know what being a girl means. When I was six years old I had a tricycle so I asked for a bicycle but my parents said “oh darling its now a no-no for you riding a bike” while my male peers had bicycle and enjoyed riding it. then I had another problem , I liked to play with my friends noisily and even quarrel with them but my parents said “ oh you are a girl don’t fight with your friends , just be a good girl “.so you see in my family I learned I can not have things I enjoyed often. I became a teenager so I liked to go out with my friends for shopping or things like that. my friends told me their families do not allow them to do so while its acceptable for their brothers to go out whenever they liked .i think it was my birthright to spend time with my friends but my friends tried to be good girls. So as a good girl I went to university. While I did not have confidence on myself I saw boys have overconfidence .for example when I was uncertain about talking about what I had studied , I saw boys can give a lecture when even they are not ready. i think it’s just being a boy that makes them confident. You see being a girl deprived me of many things that I enjoyed in my life. my environment never helped me to develop .now if I want to stand on my own feet and do not give up I have to be myself in other words “not to be a good girl”.