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August 8, 2008

Have you ever met someone who's not what they represented them self?Have you suddenly found out someone changes his mind after he's given his word?They eventuall live in their world of lies because they refuse to face up to those lies they just live in denial,denial to the truth.They possess an incredible ability to ignore what is glaringly obvious to the rest of the world; that they are lazy, deluded, irresponsible, excuse-making procrastinators and it’s all because they live in the denial.Just like the movie I just watched:“Love and other disasters”,Peter(that cuttie gay man” lives in his little dreamworld and keeps filling his head with fantasies.He finds out what he’s been doing so far and then starts to get it right at the end of this movie.This sweet movie inspired me and made me think,am I doing the same thing?

We humans are not that original in our approach to problems.Often the first problem we have to deal with is the "approach" part:everyone who comes to their boss denies most of his own failings,and assumes more than a fair share of the failings of others.Maybe we just live in a parallel universe where the problems and reality don’t seem to matter to us.

Perhaps sometimes the thing we got inside is a real big deal to us and our life,we feel shame and unfair or un-inspired to say it aloud.Let’s take this scene: you are a gay and you make it a secret to everyone you interact with in a party or whatever.You can deny who you really are but you cannot deny how you feel and what your characteristic is.And this,is driving you crazy and one day it crashes you down.Come on!Just treat it as another essence you have and be honest to you yourself and everyone who’s truly interacting with you.If someone asks,”Where’s your girlfriend?”you should just respond “Oh,I don’t have one,but I had a boyfriend~”Then this guy must know what you mean and get the point through and find another subject.But if not,well,he’s a jackass,leave him alone.

Why we have to do our best to convince ourselves that it’s all about timing,or money,or luck,or genetics,or discrimination,or our colleagues,or the system of our society,or just the opportunities are less than no excuses or self-indulgence or something like that.Here,what I’m talking is about how to create our life.It’s not about beating ourselves up with our flaws,or indulging in self-pity,or even believe the lies we made for others and ourselves;it’s about honesty,responsibility,attitude to the reality.There are and will be hurdles,obstacles,challenges and even tragedies but those things are no reasons we have to compromise.Don’t tell people your story,show them one.

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