Be Able To

I thought asking people to do something for you is kind of a weakness on your side because essentially you are depending on that person from whom you asking the favor.  But if you think about it, asking requires persuasion, which in turn requires good understanding about how people think and what is considered fair in a society – intellectually challenging stuff.  Then, asking people to do things depends on the level of your sophistication (a good contrast is demanding, which would depend on intimidation backed by power). Probably, I lacked the needed sophistication, so I avoided asking people for something and tried to regard it unimportant.  I should learn the art of asking because in a nut shell it is about understanding human relations better.

I don’t like plant the seed in someone else’s mind. If there is a need, go and say it out directly, it maybe a better and an easier way to solve the problem. But everything is different toward everybody. So to sum up, I don’t want to have the same experience like Devan, wish I can have a happier life?~!

I have to say, I like girl like Devan, she do hard for the things she want ,love ,marriage ,blublu…...What else ,there a boy who knows what she is doing , so come on ,best wishes for you !

usually i ask directly so i can be confident im understood

i adore direct speak i cant stand plant the seed

Most of the things I want dont come easy, which means I’ve got to plant the seed. It is nothing bad but just a subtle way to cut short of my wasting time. HOwever, dropping hints may cause some side-effects and I somtimes get trapped by myself.

Now I learned new prases, that I should always plant the seed when I ask some question or mentioned something, maybe its a good idea to do that! I hope that I can use this words frequently_~

Most of the time i either ask directly for what i want or i don’t talk at all. But i don’t like to plant the seed because if i were understood by the other partner to be planting the seeds, It would be embarrassing to me .

plant the seed is better, taking more time can help to take the right decision , there are some situations need plant the seed more than others.

for issue like marriage i plant the seed , buy a new dress i buy directly .

Do what you want and talk what you think. Planting the seed might make you tired like Devan when the people whom you planted the seed do not understand what you want.

Actually, I depen on your partner, if he/she sensitive enought you can plant the seed. But I like to ask directly.

Good luck Devan. it seems that J understand your point.

i make that sometimes and this is a good method for teaching people something,or make them understand their mistakes with them selfes

sometimes i plant the seed ,sometimes i ask directly!

it’s better to ask for what you want directly but it’s more fun to plant the seeds in people’ minds

It’s esay people to get what you want plant a the seeds you want O_o

When it comes to be helped or advised in some working situations the best way to say or ask it as it is. As much you describe the subject you’re interested in as much you will gain. But if it’s relations of two persons of course you must plant the seed)  

actually it depend  on  the case and the person who  you want the thing from ,, some times plant the seed does not work , and some poeple don’t understand undirectlly ,,so in some cases you have  to say it directly ,,but  also i think plant  the  seed is  very  nice  way to  get  what  you want 

unfortunately, when i plant the seed about i wish my husband could do something for me, it always dosen’t get the point across….

I do really think that planting the seed is the best way. Sometimes it is hard and other times not. It might take a bit practise n tact until you learn how to do it right.

“Never let go the things you really want!” – People will do whatever it takes, more than plannin’ the seed sometimes!!