I actually like your lines about the test drive Lucy, I got your point really. some of my friends said "how do you know that he's not into bdsm if you two hadn't have sex yet? or how about if he's lousy in bed?" etc etc I am a virgin, I always think I will give it to the right man that deserve it. I completely respect people who share the deepest intimacy with their boyfriend/girlfriend because it means they are completely trust each other. On the other side, I respect those who tried to keep it until after the wedding. trust me, it's not easy. And I don't think it is weird for your friend to planned about baby ;) because I do plan to have baby like AFTER we hit 1 year marriage. I need to catch up so much thing in a year, I think. As in whether a man should keep his virginity for the sake of his future wife, I'm not really agree with that. I actually don't really agree if a man required his wife to be virgin when he's not. or a virgin woman demands a virgin man..lol. If you really love someone you wouldn't care about his/her past sex life. besides, it is not about their past. it is about you and your lover, right here right now and your future together don't you think? Aljensen, it is not weird really. my man actually said the same thing about marry a virgin woman..he said it'll be too much work lol. I was like "wait..don't you think you should feel flattered or something?" I do think one virgin is enough between us. whenever he has a doubt (as in he feels he doesn't deserve me) I always tell him that I am lucky he is not a virgin because at least he wouldn't stick it in the wrong hole.
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