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Honeymoon. Period.

Honeymoon. Period.

Date: Nov 16 2007

Themes: Romance

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In the United States, on your wedding day you say, “Till death do us part,” meaning that you will love that person until you die. But more than half of marriages here end in divorce. What happens after the wedding day to make things fall apart?

This was a popular forum topic recently. Listen to Marni and Devan talk about what they think happens to love after marriage.

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Marni

Marni

Devan

Devan

Marni:  You know, you’re in a relationship, especially, I think, if you get married, it’s like, you’re seeing someone, or you’re married, you’re in this relationship, you’re so in love and after a while…do you think…it just seems like…things…kind of…fizzle.

Devan:  That’s why I’m afraid to get married.

Marni:  I know! It seems like…what happens when that happens? And does it? There’s that expression, “The honeymoon phase” of a relationship. At first you’re all excited but then…I don’t know…you just get so complacent.

Devan:  Do you think that it’s because they’re not in love anymore or they’re just comfortable? Do think it becomes more comfortable and less passionate?

Marni:  I think love changes. I mean, I think that part of being in a really good relationship is being comfortable with the fact that you’re not, like, super hot and heavy and all excited, you know, about each other. But then I also think, like, well, wow, so many people I know cheat on…you know, you hear about that all the time. Is that because love fades? Or is it just the excitement of something new?

Devan:  I think it’s kind of both.

Marni:  It’s kind of depressing, isn’t it?

Devan:  It is kind of depressing. I don’t think I’m ever gonna get married. I want to stay in the honeymoon phase forever.

Marni:  Yeah. Exactly. It’s not possible.

 

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Discussion

It takes a minute for Marni to get around to saying the sad truth. That so often, love fades after marriage. Devan says that that’s why marriage scares her.

People talk about the honeymoon phase of a relationship. A honeymoon is a vacation taken after a wedding. It’s worry-free, but temporary. A lot of times, relationships are like that too. They’re fun for a while, but the fun ends.

Devan wonders if love actually disappears after a while or if it merely seems to because people just get more comfortable with each other.

Marni says that she thinks love changes. That part of what it means to be in a lasting relationship is accepting that it may not be extremely passionate all the time.

But, nonetheless, many people in seemingly happy relationships choose to cheat. It may be the attraction of something new, or it may be the disappearance of love. Or both.

Why do you think love often seems to disappear after a while? What’s the best way to keep a relationship passionate?

 

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cheer up

China

I agree with you ,I think when honeymoon went by ,all left is the responsbility to each other , I hope all the people can hold on ,and can live there life with only one people who is they loved once.

01:43 PM Nov 16 2007 |

Luna Ho

China

Although i’m not married, i belivev that is what real life looks like. Most the time we should be the reality.Everyday we have a lot to care about such as our work and study, we hardly have any time to make somthing romantic….

01:18 PM Nov 16 2007 |

imlynne

China

true love is always there

12:12 PM Nov 16 2007 |

kaushalyats

Sri Lanka

Love will never change and only the relationships fizzled.It's true that most of us when seeing someone only the first few days go through honymoon phase and fall apart after sometime.When you start to living to gether you will find diparities of both of you and then you will think that he or she is not a good parner for you.this will leads to most of the cheating. My advice for have a good relationship and be hot and heavy to eachother evry time is , dont do anything he/she doesn't like , love each other evry time  and always give time to listen to your parner, prepare to sacrifice things in sake of love and most importantly keep your sexual life always like a honymoon phase (keep on doing love making activities to your partnet which you have done at very first days of yor relationship and dont give up anything, act like a you are making love he/she  very first time))

11:54 AM Nov 16 2007 |

kaushalyats

Sri Lanka

Love will never change and only the relationships fizzled.It’s true that most of us when seeing someone only the first few days go through honymoon phase and fall apart after sometime.When you start to living to gether you will find diparities of both of you and then you will think that he or she is not a good parner for you.this will leads to most of the cheating. My advice for have a good relationship and be hot and heavy to eachother evry time is , dont do anything he/she doesn’t like , love each other evry time and always give time to listen to your parner, prepare to sacrifice things in sake of love and most importantly keep your sexual life always like a honymoon phase (keep on doing love making activities to your partnet which you have done at very first days of yor relationship and dont give up anything, act like a you are making love he/she very first time))

11:54 AM Nov 16 2007 |

edouard

edouard

Nigeria

well for a relationship to last as to lasting marriages,then love should be  seen and defined like this.love is acceptance,love is understanding,love is appreciating,love is caring,love is not hatre and love is tolerance.with this in a  relationship, it will last till death do us apart.

11:37 AM Nov 16 2007 |

muchangqing

China

I think that it's a good thing.It can make me happiness and respenable.Don't you think it?I'm a positive man.

11:32 AM Nov 16 2007 |

fidel197877

Mauritania

I think that's love should comes after marriage because you should work to keep your relationship up & that's come by patience and understanding other

11:17 AM Nov 16 2007 |

walafaba

Netherlands Antilles

plz can u give me your adderss so that we be very good friends good bye .

11:14 AM Nov 16 2007 |

fidel197877

Mauritania

I think that love comes after marriage because you should work hard to keep your familly & this can be done by patience and understanding other

11:12 AM Nov 16 2007 |

Brian8

Brian8

China

I think they only need the fresh,so the couple should change their life hourly,they will feel new and passionate.

10:55 AM Nov 16 2007 |

梦里共醉

梦里共醉

China

Love exists before it faded,that's enough! 

10:35 AM Nov 16 2007 |

Grace Yang

China

True love will last forever.It is a feeling which can make you smile happily and feel refresh!Smile

09:35 AM Nov 16 2007 |

maliamei

China

I think everyone want to stay together with her husband or his wife in our country, but if it keep a long time it  may be the bad thing for love. you are lucky. your Honeymoon  must be longer than someone els

08:43 AM Nov 16 2007 |

zhaoxiaqi

China

very good
l agree your point
everyone marry must be keeped well by himself

08:29 AM Nov 16 2007 |

annysong

China

This phenomenon is decided by the nature. Human being is also a part of nature so they have the nature essentiality——like new and bore the old. Between man and woman relationship as long as they fall in love whatever they get married or not, the result is same that is passion love fading no matter how seemingly happy relationship they look like . This process is like a kind of flower opening and fading. No one can change it. if somebody wants to change it that means he wants to challenge the nature. It’s impossible. The passion love will change into relative love in old couples. There’s a Chinese classical movie describe the relationship of old couples. After the dramatis personaes had got married 6-7 years the husband fell in love with another woman, when his wife knew the fact, the husband touched his wife’s hand and said   “I touch your hand like touch mine no feeling, but if it is cut I can feel strong pain.” So don’t wish stay in honeymoon period for ever, if you want to keep love the only thing you can do is to suit marriage

08:26 AM Nov 16 2007 |

annysong

China

This phenomenon is decided by the nature. Human being is also a part of nature so they have the nature essentiality——like new and bore the old. Between man and woman relationship as long as they fall in love whatever they get married or not, the result is same that is passion love fading no matter how seemingly happy relationship they look like . This process is like a kind of flowering opening and fading. No one can change it. if somebody wants to change it that means he wants to challenge the nature. It’s impossible. The passion love will change into relative love in old couples. There’s a very Chinese classical movie describe the relationship of old couples. After the dramatis personaes had got married 6-7 years the husband fell in love with another woman, when his wife knew the fact, the husband touched his wife’s hand and said   “I touch your hand like touch mine no feeling, but if it is cut I can feel strong pain.” So don’t wish stay in honeymoon period for ever, if you want to keep love the only thing you can do is to suit marriage

08:25 AM Nov 16 2007 |

kittyzghz

kittyzghz

China

It’s easy to love but difficult to live together!

08:25 AM Nov 16 2007 |

qicaipaopao

China

Well ,as we know, after marriage ,the relationship between husband and wife has changed. But love still lie in everyone' heart.

08:24 AM Nov 16 2007 |

Nguyen Vietnamese

Viet Nam

Till death do us part :)

08:21 AM Nov 16 2007 |

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