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Forgiveness
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Forgiveness
宽恕

Unreal Past Tense

Date: May 20 2011

Themes: Friend

Grammar: The Unreal Past

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People say that you should turn the other cheek when someone wrongs you. But what if someone did something so mean you just couldn’t forgive them? Or what if the same person wronged you in the same way over and over? Sometimes, it’s just too hard to let go.

Everyone has different ideas about what’s forgivable, and what isn’t. Some couples are able to stay together even if one partner has an affair. Other relationships break up over very small problems. Find out if Devan and Ella find it easy or hard to forgive.

人们常说,如果别人错待了你,你要宽宏大量。但是如果有人做了极其卑鄙的事,你就是无法原谅他,那该怎么办?或者同一个人反反复复地错待你,你又怎么办?有时候,就是没那么容易释怀。
对于什么可以宽恕,什么不可以宽恕,每个人心中都有自己的一杆秤。有些夫妻即使其中一个有外遇,也仍然生活在一起。而有些情侣因为鸡毛蒜皮的小事就会分手。看看迪文和艾拉是否容易宽恕别人。

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Ella

Ella

Devan

Devan

Ella:  I have the hardest time forgiving people. I don’t know if it’s a pride issue, but I just hold a grudge for so long.

Devan:  Really, you can’t let go of things really easily?

Ella:  Not at all. I can’t turn the other cheek, especially if I feel like I got wronged. I feel like that person needs to be punished with me not being in their life.

Devan:  See, I’m the exact opposite. Sometimes I feel like it takes more energy to hold a grudge than it does to just move on.

Ella:  It’s so hard for me to let go. I feel like not forgiving someone really just proves a point.

Devan:  So what would be an example of a situation that you just absolutely could not forgive someone for?

Ella:  I give people three chances, so the first two times I forgive, but number three, regardless of what the situation is, I can’t. That’s like my number count.

Devan:  Even if it’s something really petty?

Ella:  Yeah.

Devan:  What if, like, your friend had a crush on the same boy that you had a crush on, and she dated him?

Ella:  It depends on who had the crush first.

Devan:  Well, I’ll be careful to never cross you. I don’t want to be on your bad side.

Ella:  Three chances.

 

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Ella finds it hard to forgive people. She thinks that not forgiving someone who has wronged her is a good way to teach that person a lesson. She thinks it is especially hard to forgive someone who wrongs her more than once. She gives people three chances. After that, she won’t forgive them, no matter what they did.

Devan is the opposite. She usually forgives people. To her, it is more difficult to hold a grudge than to forgive someone. So she is pretty tolerant and forgiving.

Do you find it easy or hard to forgive people?

 

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hinakhan

hinakhan

India

forgining is deppaned on our think what we are think about other if we think good so we forgive him/her easily if not so it’s become difecall for us..

06:04 AM May 22 2011 |

sandra2

sandra2

Yemen

forgiveness depend to the work or action that happen 

05:56 AM May 22 2011 |

kinawang

kinawang

China

Forgiveness sometimes is not really easy .Something just be hidden in a part for the time being.  once u have meet u care  it will appear again.

02:11 AM May 22 2011 |

marekjestem

Poland

however sometimes you just cant turn tha other cheek…. you have to fight for your rights.

07:30 PM May 21 2011 |

Miss.Seba

Miss.Seba

Yemen

forgiveness is such a great thing but only for those who deserve it..

06:22 PM May 21 2011 |

jnain

jnain

Saudi Arabia

i  have a lot of my friends but if this person more close for me i can be angry becase he or she is my frined  & i think he or she consider me really


but if not more close thats on depends on my mood.


hhhhhhhhhhhh

06:17 PM May 21 2011 |

SaLaS

SaLaS

Oman

If we didn’t forgive person who we luved, who shall we forgive ?...

05:33 PM May 21 2011 |

Gustavo Boechat

Brazil

It’s really a difficult issue that I must work on! I must learn how to forgive people…I have learnt it yet but I do want to learn it!

05:20 PM May 21 2011 |

Ryo

Ryo

Saudi Arabia

i  think  that maybe Percentage


  for  forgivenss 
There are rate
and If you did not go beyond  that
maybe you are weak
Or have type  of  personal
 not know eaxtly

 

04:47 PM May 21 2011 |

wishtolearn

El Salvador

no comments…. just that forgiving is a gift of God

04:15 PM May 21 2011 |

dr_irfan

dr_irfan

Pakistan

my dear IlVA, To forgive someone is not to give him permission to hurt you, but gives u an indication to be aware for the next time, and just forgive him dont talk him again, “forgive and forget”

03:39 PM May 21 2011 |

IlVA

IlVA

Germany

“To forgive someone is like giving them permition to hurt you..again”


is that really true??? if we wrong,we break the trust and ander the relationship between us… so no matter what we do things are never gonna be the same!!!

02:53 PM May 21 2011 |

gotravelenglish

United States

I agree with mnal_F.  It’s all different situations.  Not a simple universal rule.  Examine the situation and go from there.  But, in general and in most small cases, us humans can do a better job of forgiving and just letting go.  

02:48 PM May 21 2011 |

tamago

tamago

Japan

“three chances ” is important to me , too.
but I wouldn’t do like Ella .

12:05 PM May 21 2011 |

dr_irfan

dr_irfan

Pakistan

I think we always should forgive the peoples, because its not bad to do wrong bad but its bad when some done wrong and revenge makes us also wrong…........

11:59 AM May 21 2011 |

justin.huang

China

it’s very easy for me to forgive people even if they have done something that really hurt me, but that not means i can get along well with them just like before, i don’t want to hold the grudge all the time but naturally there would be something exists in my heart telling me that: hey, be careful, he/she would hurt you! 

11:05 AM May 21 2011 |

memerak

memerak

United Arab Emirates

for me  it easy to forgive someone but not all the time , I give people time to think abut mistake if  they anderstand mistake and feel sory I forgive hem.^^

10:15 AM May 21 2011 |

Awur kual

Sudan

for me  it’s very easy to forgive people’s mistake , becous god need that as we know that , he’s said that  forgive your selfs. so when you forgive sameone you feeling peaceful

09:53 AM May 21 2011 |

IlVA

IlVA

Germany

“forgive the people’s mistakes,but never forget their names!”

09:10 AM May 21 2011 |

hamza11alhammedi

Yemen

i think that everyone in the world can be impeacealble that can’t never be wrone so everyone do mistakes in his/her life , but you must learn from your mistakes and you must respect the others and admir him when they do mistakes and ant to don’t do that .I think that forgive others is good to help others but not all of them ,it’s depand on the people who really want to don’t make mistake agian.


 

08:16 AM May 21 2011 |

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