Should we allow sex....?

Friends,

Everyone needs sex…& some where everyone wants to go out of his partner….

either we go out with guilts or we repress ourself….why don't we allow each other to enjoy life…?

What are the fears…& what could be the after effects …

I would like to discuss in detail…..

Yeal But chinese wife never allow husband to make love with other womon too. 

 i think you are right.

Dear Kamodia,

I respect your feelings very much & i feel you are not married yet.. so you are not experienced yet… the question which I have raised is not problem of dishonest couple…but this is really a prblem of a partner who wants to honest to his partner… but we are not honest & have courage to accept facts so we hide a lot of our feelings & truths inside of us & move in society with clean faces… but actually doing something else.. the whole business of prostitution is a byproduct of our shown morality & marriage.. which are the persons who visits prostitutes..these are those husbands who are sincere to their wives… & don't have courage to accept that they want other than wife… & it is very easy formula to fullfill one's desire & keeping our face clean but hiding dirt inside… & always imaginig,dreaming about sex ..sex & sex only which should be called suxuality…to dream of sex while not doing it… & it has great effects upon our life….

when a couple enjoys sex do you feel that there are two persons only… there are always four persons.. two partners & one in dream of a husband… imaging & remembering his desire of another woman & one a dream boy of wife….

It has no problem as well as we are dishonest but as one partner sees his dishonesty & tension of maitaing all gamesgoing on inside him …it becomes an existential problem.

I wish you all the best & respect your feelings ,your feelings are quite genuine but world is not so innocent,hence there is so much complexity in it.. that's why there is so much in security.. that's why there are laws to protect from cunningness.. but all morality taught to us by the religions makes us dishonest live actors showing differently & living differently…

while doing so we are doing heneious crimes… a few days ago there was a report  in the press that in india alone there are 3 million girls of age group of 6-8 used as sex slaves… in india alone & a large number of minor girls are sold & exported to arab countries…as cows,befellows …what religions are doing…? & we live in society where every body is religiuos.. may hindu, mouslim or christian but while explotting women all are similer…then remains only two existential classes… male & female… which religion allows such acts…? we just go on fighting in the names just.. ALLAH ,GOD ,RAM… what makes the difference… in general we have meet religion at three points in our life…birth marriage & death..our self is not available in birth & death.. & practically our marrige remains the moment when religion appears in our life.. at the most we consume our time to learn what religion says… but we are never taught to get connected to that existential POWER who is in everyomne …I feel so…I may be wrong…

that's why i'll never get married xD. I'm not "just a little girl", i fully understand the complexity. But I can't be dishonest, it doesn't go with my nature. Some time ago I was about to be a guy's girlfriend, and even though he was a very very special person for me, i told him i didn't physically feel anything for him and it wouldn't work. I can't lie to people, not even to myself. I feel that's a good life option, not to trick yourself into feeling something for someone or into hating someone… Into having sex pretending to enjoy it while you really dont.. Even though it's hard, isnt honesty the best way to live without much complications?

p.s: i must say i absolutely agree with everything else you said. that's why i'm atheist. i do not need sacred books or not even the idea of a superior being to get connected with "my heart and the heart of the world", which could be considered as "god", "universal energy", etc.. (i dont say i believe in god because, to me, a god is a "superior being". but the only godly thing i can percieve and believe in is the energy moving this world. I do not worship that energy. I just make sure to use it correctly.)

Dear Kamodia,You are perfectly right,you have the full authority(given to you by the existence) to live as you like.it's nice follow your own instincts & the people who don't like to make lies to themself are'different' from all over the world..they are always fewer in numbers & exceptions of the existence…

The people who are really connected to that existential eneregy need not & do not worship that energy..they just celebrate & enjoy & live that blessing of existence… what is worship …?they are just words of consolations for those people who are not connected to that energy…The words have no validity in the existence… I respect your style..& feel joy ful for the people who live existential life…congratulations..& thanks.

welcome markchina..

Sex is created by GOD for human beings to enjoy life in legitimate way and to be responsible thereafter. Its being abused and become LUST, by the people (not humans) who are irresponsible. Sit alone for awhile and think where we come from and what is our purpose here in the world.

Sex is created by GOD for human beings to enjoy life in legitimate way and to be responsible thereafter. Its being abused and become LUST, by the people (not humans) who are irresponsible. Sit alone for awhile and think where we come from and what is our purpose here in the world.