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August 18, 2009

 haw to build ur self confident?

You want to be confident and feel confident, but what if you're starting with little or no confidence? How do you get from Point A to Point B? True self-confidence isn't an overnight acquisition. It takes dedication to realize you are a good human being that is worthy of respect and you have to believe in yourself.

  1. Recognize your insecurities. What does that voice in the back of your mind say? What makes you ashamed of yourself? This could be anything from acne, to regrets, your weight, or friends at school. Whatever is making you feel unworthy, ashamed, or inferior, identify it, give it a name, and write it down.
  2. Don't view yourself as inferior to others. Don't walk around with the subconscious mindset that others are better or more qualified than you, whether it's related to work, school, or just socializing. To a certain degree, it's good to walk around with a feeling of superiority. However, don't take this too far, or you'll come across as a jerk.
  3. Talk about it with friends and loved ones. Wear it on your sleeve. Each day you should chip away at it; wear it down. There's no quick fix. Get to the root of the problem; focus on it and understand that you need to resolve each issue before you can move on.
  4. Remember that no one is perfect. Even the most confident people have insecurities. At some point in any of our lives, we may feel we lack something. That is reality. Learn that life is full of bumps down the road.
  5. Identify your successes. Everyone is good at something, so discover the things at which you excel, then focus on your talents. Give yourself permission to take pride in them. Give yourself credit for your successes. Inferiority is a state of mind in which you've declared yourself a victim. Do not allow yourself to be victimized. Express yourself, whether it's through art, music, writing, etc. Find something you enjoy. Everyone is born with talents and strengths. You can develop and excel in yours. If it's difficult to name two or three things you have some ability in or just plain love to do, think about things others do that you would like to do too and take some lessons or join an enthusiasts club. When you're following your passion, not only will it have a therapeutic effect, but you'll feel unique and accomplished, all of which can help build your self confidence. Plus, adding a variety of interests to your life will not only make you more confident, but it will increase your chances of meeting compatible friends!
  6. Be thankful for what you have. A lot of the times, at the root of insecurity and lack of confidence is a feeling of not having enough of something, whether it's emotional validation, good luck, money, etc. By acknowledging and appreciating what you do have, you can combat the feeling of being incomplete and unsatisfied. Finding that inner peace will do wonders for your confidence.
  7. Be Positive, even if you don't feel positive. Avoid self-pity, or the pity and sympathy of others. Never allow others to make you feel inferior--they can only do so if you let them. If you continue to loathe and belittle yourself, others are going to do and believe likewise. Instead, speak positively about yourself, about your future, and about your progress. Do not be afraid to project your strengths and qualities to others. By doing so, you reinforce those ideas in your mind and encourage your growth in a positive direction.
  8. Accept compliments gracefully. Don't roll your eyes and say, "Yeah, right," or shrug it off. Take it to heart and respond positively ("Thank you" and a smile works well).
  9. Look in the mirror and smile. Studies surrounding what's called the "facial feedback theory" suggest that the expressions on your face can actually encourage your brain to register certain emotions. So by looking in the mirror and smiling every day, you might feel happier with yourself and more confident in the long run. It also helps to talk to yourself in the mirror. It helps your speaking skills.
  10. Fake it. Along the same lines of smiling to make yourself feel happy, acting confident might actually make you believe it. Pretend you're a completely confident version of you; go through the motions and see how you feel
    1. Stick to your principles. It might be tough, but if you don't have something you can believe in, you don't have anything. If you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything. No matter what's happened in your life, you can always lay claim to the fact that from this day forward, you've followed your principles to the best of your ability.
    2. Help others. When you know you're kind to the people around you, and are making a positive difference in other people's lives (even if it's just being kinder to the person who serves you coffee in the morning), you'll know that you are a positive force in the world--which will boost your self confidence. Govolunteer twice a month at an elementary school. Bake something for your neighbor for no reason. Confidence that you have earned is the most long-lasting.
    3. Don't Care What Other People Think You shouldn't care about what other people will think or are going to think because what's important is that you are fine with yourself and if you're fine with yourself, others will be fine with you!
    4. Remember If someone insults you and puts you down, just remember,that they are not perfect either.
    5. Look at yourself in the mirror and list all of the positive qualities that you have. Doing this every day can help to build a better self-view of yourself.
    6. Work hard- Keep on doing your work honestly. Have a target in your life.Focus on it. Do anything to reach that target and see how that inner feeling of confidence comes to you.

02:16 AM Jul 06 2014

ghost.w0506
Germany

ramadan kareem vector

09:22 AM Jun 23 2013

ghost.w0506
Germany

also when our weather isn t like summer now

I would like to send some summer flowers to a friend

enjoy, be happy, smile................

07:03 AM May 30 2013

ola33

ola33
Japan

I think confidence feeling as well as fear feeling, addiction anf all other negative stuff just doesn't go away in one day. There should be a certain speech of lies/truth/statements/your personal scriptures to be developed and repeated several times a day by replacing the old negative beliefs and getting a new more positive ones. It's so called a self/help talk. It's a great thing if you beleive in it. It can be boosted by great quotes, by people you follow, by Bible, and on that basis, you can compose your own statements. But, the time is needed for this kind of work. It's just a new road you build. It takes some time to dig, to build a foundation, to put gravel, to put asphalt and seal it. And then a road is smooth and good to go. For construction road, it takes 3 days, but for human brain path, wich is more complicated,  it takes at least 40 days of every day work. But it's worth it!!

06:04 AM May 30 2013

ghost.w0506
Germany

10:51 PM May 20 2012

Saenger D

Saenger D
Germany

11:28 PM May 17 2012

Saenger D

Saenger D
Germany

good morning, s a l a m

wanna bring sunshine  into your life


11:27 PM May 10 2012

Saenger D

Saenger D
Germany

GOOOD MORNING

have a great day

sunshine in your heart

feel the miracle in our world and be happy


09:13 AM Apr 25 2012

Saenger D

Saenger D
Germany

long time not seen here. hope, you are doing great

miss youuuuuuu

12:39 AM Mar 05 2012

Saenger D

Saenger D
Germany

good morning

with floral spring greetings to you

hope, you are doing fine and you are in good health

all the best

to you and your family

waiting your mail..............just a short one Smile


08:21 PM Feb 16 2012

qualmpaw56

qualmpaw56
United States

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