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Honeymoon. Period.

Date: Nov 16 2007

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In the United States, on your wedding day you say, “Till death do us part,” meaning that you will love that person until you die. But more than half of marriages here end in divorce. What happens after the wedding day to make things fall apart?

This was a popular forum topic recently. Listen to Marni and Devan talk about what they think happens to love after marriage.

Dialog

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Marni

Devan

Marni: You know, you’re in a relationship, especially, I think, if you get married, it’s like, you’re seeing someone, or you’re married, you’re in this relationship, you’re so in love and after a while…do you think…it just seems like…things…kind of…fizzle.

Devan: That’s why I’m afraid to get married.

Marni: I know! It seems like…what happens when that happens? And does it? There’s that expression, “The honeymoon phase” of a relationship. At first you’re all excited but then…I don’t know…you just get so complacent.

Devan: Do you think that it’s because they’re not in love anymore or they’re just comfortable? Do think it becomes more comfortable and less passionate?

Marni: I think love changes. I mean, I think that part of being in a really good relationship is being comfortable with the fact that you’re not, like, super hot and heavy and all excited, you know, about each other. But then I also think, like, well, wow, so many people I know cheat on…you know, you hear about that all the time. Is that because love fades? Or is it just the excitement of something new?

Devan: I think it’s kind of both.

Marni: It’s kind of depressing, isn’t it?

Devan: It is kind of depressing. I don’t think I’m ever gonna get married. I want to stay in the honeymoon phase forever.

Marni: Yeah. Exactly. It’s not possible.

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Discussion

It takes a minute for Marni to get around to saying the sad truth. That so often, love fades after marriage. Devan says that that’s why marriage scares her.

People talk about the honeymoon phase of a relationship. A honeymoon is a vacation taken after a wedding. It’s worry-free, but temporary. A lot of times, relationships are like that too. They’re fun for a while, but the fun ends.

Devan wonders if love actually disappears after a while or if it merely seems to because people just get more comfortable with each other.

Marni says that she thinks love changes. That part of what it means to be in a lasting relationship is accepting that it may not be extremely passionate all the time.

But, nonetheless, many people in seemingly happy relationships choose to cheat. It may be the attraction of something new, or it may be the disappearance of love. Or both.

Why do you think love often seems to disappear after a while? What’s the best way to keep a relationship passionate?

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meli_blade

Venezuela

Is true, the love with the time die. Well, i´m not believe that sometime i`ll love

makeiteazy

Syrian Arab Republic

Until now am searching for real love may be I,ll get it after 60 or 70 but I,ll get it that,s y am still waiting.

cathyz

China

Honeymoon, that’s so far for me! :))

everlong

Hungary

Love changes but does not disappear!
I’m married and I love my wife much more than during our honeymoon period.
I think the key is: Marry only the right person!

spiritosa

Spain

I think the problem is when you forget that the other person has her or his freedom and the respect finish for both parts, and the routine, we don’t do anything for looking for new things to do with our partner. The relationship changes with the time, the love is less passionate but you have anothers things like comprensiveness, complicity, it’s different….

sophie shen

China

i have boy friend yet , he say he love me forever. our love last 4years, but i don't we can go untill die, this my is first love, i also think this is my ture love. may be time is proof.

amore94

Egypt

i likeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

MATEUSHS

Latvia

i think, it's not good if your work in the same place as you husband/wife. If people seldom use to be together, they must to change something! I think that every relationship may be saved if people find how to do it.

daxuewusheng

Austria

flora_woo

China

i fell in love with my boy friend at first sight and in first love six years ago. now we get on very well and we will marry.

yasadik

Turkey

Let's start the second one "What’s the best way to keep a relationship passionate?"

I think, it's impossible to keep a passionete forever. Not only about relationships, it's about anything. Is anybody here who can say "i enjoy about sth/sb at the same all time"

And we know that human changes everyday. i think it's about psyhcologic.

And the first "Why do you think love often seems to disappear after a while?"

According to research love goes on only for 3-6 months. and this is psyhcologic too.

i'm a married man and we love each other, but there is no equalty every time. sometime she might want to kill me. :))))

i think the important point in marriage;

being able to live with whom you don't like sometime.

that's all.

mohammd.ali

Iraq

I think the problem is many people think about sex only,,,, and thy forgot the love and romanticism and feelings…..

Phoebus

China

Loves are good things,otherwise just look what you do for it.

jiemingming

China

I don't know how to deal with this relationship.Now I don't want to marry.

lo2lo2a

Egypt

iam married and iam trying to keep the relation ship and i want to be happy every day but some times you dont know from where the troubles come and you know what happen then

so i realy want to know how can i make this love being all the time and all days being a honeymoon

djcrystal

Thailand

A guy is head over heels in love with me…but I don't know if I have a feeling for him or not. He'll ask me for marriage. I wish he could make me love him back. I don't know what to do…

sameer3

Yemen

The problem lays When a copula stop talking to each other, understanding each other, and make compromise between them. It is not because of disappear of passion between them.

redrose0208

China

I couldn't live without love.

monkeyyo

China

Marridge also needs politeness and a few white lies.

monkeyyo

China

I think the honeymoon phrase is easy to keep.Keep love.responsability,trust,respect and understanding in our hearts and like Cayra said,'make our life different using our inventive to renovate love each day,you'll feel marridge is wonderful.By the way,I'm married.