English lesson about Love

wannicho, I sacrificed the dearest people ( relatives, friends) for the sake of my love. I still miss my kin and friends terribly. :’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’’(((((

My significant other was never rich. So was I.

We made our future by ourselves. We built our careers during long time by hard working.

Nothing in our life was preparing in advance by his or my parents or by someone else, not at all. 

There were no profits – only sincere  love :) <3<3<3

”..but many guys in a relationship just want sex , so long-distance can never be their choice”  - noone of our friends believed in the “happy end” of our long-distance love but seems to be we were an exception

In this kind of relationship you can test the loyalty,trust, patience and faithfulness of the person. Its either of the two it’ll be successful or end up nothing.

seldom long-distance will work out , only if one of them is willing to give up all they had in the place they are staying atm. and things could be much easy if that some1 hate or feels nothings about this place , or just leaving this place for a much better one. well… don’t mean to be judgement , but many guys in a relationship just want sex , so long-distance can never be their choice , unless there is an ulterior motive involved , like just by marring that girl will help him a lot for his future , career…don’t mean to put down all the guys , but there are a lot of this sort of ppl in my country.  

Lena, thank you.

We live in a free world of relationship and choices. We have one God for everybody for believing, loving and spreading good things. I also want to add, that God is not a shield as some people can think.

Irene’s words are true.

One Indian friend-jainist told me that he was forbidden to choose girl he loves because only his parents must decide and find the “appropriate”  wife for him. 

Money,caste system, social position etc spoils feelings. 

He told me a lot about indian  traditions before the wedding. Before the relationship confirmed by parents girl should be interviewed in front of her future husband on the subjects of  her skills to maintain her future family and kids. 

He told me that this interview put him and her in awkward position, but this is a tradition of Jainism. :(

His marriage has never been filled with love. Neither he nor his wife love each other. They live together alsmost 20 years and their marriage is just a habbit  :(

Long-distance relationship  can be a success. There is nothing impossible.

Such kind of relationship is even keener that traditional one. People eager and miss each other so badly. After meeting thay can distinguish  if it was true feeling or not.

I had a long-distance relationship, and still my heart can’t forget it. Unfortunately, it is impossible for us to be together.

Totally agree with Irene.

Baset, may I ask you one question?

As far as I know, muslims mostly get married without love. Especially it applies to women who don’t have any choice whom to marry, and their parents decide instead of them. Money plays a leading part in the  marriage.

Might it be a good family where there is no love?

In Ukraine most of people enter into marriage deeply loving each other.It’s true that many young and even mature people live in civil marriage in Ukraine. Still I think it’s better than marriage of convenience. No child  can be happy living in the family where there is no love between parents. Here,  it’s preferable  people to be divorced that to fight every day.

Belief in God doesn’t give us a permission to live together without love.

“No matter how far apart we are we will always be under the same sky” ~ Unknown quote

Long- distance relationships CAN work out in the long run. They do!!!

I have experienced long-distance relationships lasting 3 years non-stop. Looking back at that time, I can confirm that I went through this kind of relationship with an immense happiness.

Long-distance relationships are incomparable, unusual, exclusive, exciting, promising, trustful, faith-checking, passionate, terribly missing…..

With all honesty I admit it was a highlight in my  life.

The sweet anticipation, cold feet and tears of joy each time the train from far country with HIM arrives in my city is never forgettable!

Long-distance relationships make the feelings of loving couple “spicier” and brighter <3

Distance and time help  distinguish  and check whether it’s a true love or a fake love.

Finally, family I have got now is a result of long-distance relationship I have just described above.

IMHO, try the long distance relationships and you’ll see that “pros” predominate so much over “cons”

Be happy in love everyone!! 

Hey baset ; just slow down when u r driving !!

Brother / salam .

JOY AND LAILA : SALAM ! I’M TOO LATE I HAVE TO GO THE AIRPORT !

 There would always be people that would say that long distance relationships don’t work, just remember that they are not the people who are in the relationship. Making it work surviving the long distance cannot should not be determined by them.

When you are alone, take out time to see the photos of your love, any gift that he/she has given, or letters written. At night, before sleeping, try to recollect those wonderful moments.

4. Try to Send a drawing or handwritten message by email.

5. Try to Set goals for each other .

Baset ; Do you think that  long distance relationships often don’t successes  ?

There are different kinds of relationships across the miles and they require different things.

Every kind of relationship takes hard work and dedication to your loved one or partner, whether it’s long distance or proximal.

Remember: Things will get better with time, and even the relationship will become better. Have hope.

Remember:   A relationship must be built on strong foundations of trust, understanding and determination to make it work.

Remember, fights are a part of any relationship, and it’s up to you to deal with it or to succumb to it.

At last just remember to create a common goal for you to work towards, developing a strong relationship whether you are together or apart. For example, agree to disagree, accept each other as you are, practice trust and honesty, strive towards compromise and self-sacrifice, seek spiritual unity, and maintain open communication.

Guys : How we can make long distance relationships successful  ?

It’s true that how hard it is be far away from someone you care about , but the upside of long distance relationship is that  distance can be a blessing in disguise. Proximity can lead us to take people for granted, whereas being apart allows us to know someone in a truly different way. The extra effort you both make to keep in touch, whether through phone calls or email, can foster a special intimacy. In the end, you may learn more about each other’s personalities, values, ideas, and dreams than folks who spend time together every day. Face-to-face relationships can grow stale and filled with superficial conversations and few, if any, meaningful heart-to-hearts.

Baset & joy :

The downside of Long distance relationships is difficult, as you are emotionally attached to a person you cannot touch or comfort and this can wreak havoc with your emotions. You may have negative thoughts or feelings that are not true, you may doubt your love feelings, or, because of some fights over the phone, you may feel that you don’t feel the way you did before for your partner. But try to keep these feelings in perspective as distance can aggravate them.

 Guys ; sooooo great ! As you know ;
There’s an upside and downside to long distance relationship : it tests how committed you are but it can also test your emotional and mental capacity.

Laila : can you tell me the downside of long distance relationship ?

Baset : can you tell me the upside of long distance relationship ?

In any  religion of Allah, the goal of any relationship should be to cause the people in our lives to love and know the Allah better. Living together is shameful and selfish as the parties do not care what others think or how they might affect their families and others. They are living to please their own lust and selfish desires. This type of life style is destructive and especially so for children whose parents are living a bad example before them. No wonder our children are confused about right and wrong when parents degrade the sanctity of marriage by living together out of wedlock. How can living together cause children to love and honor Allah when their parents break the laws of Allah before them because they are lustful.