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Marni

United States

September 26, 2011
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Recently, I have had to comfort a friend who is experiencing the worst kind of heartbreak. Having one’s heart broken is the worst pain. Those of us that have gone through it know it can take ages to recover from having your heart broken. While my attention has been focused on my friend and comforting her, I can’t help but think about the man who has broken her heart. He is also a friend, and now I find myself asking, “How do you forgive the unforgiveable?”

When someone does something so hideous, so awful and you have previously given them the benefit of the doubt and they repeatedly mess up, how do you keep giving them allowances? Is it possible that it is as simple as the passage of time, or are there some things that are just unforgiveable? 

Now I know that there are some huge underlying issues that are not being addressed here and for that I want to be understanding, but when your actions destroy those around you that love you most, I just have a hard time being compassionate.  I know people make mistakes and need guidance but how many times can you keep making the same mistakes and not take some serious stock in your life?

I am being intentionally vague about the specifics because these are real people who deserve their privacy. I will say that the situation is very disturbing and screams for the need for real, professional help. 

It would be easy to just hate this person and wish him harm, but that is not me. I am understanding and I am very forgiving. That is why I am so conflicted and broken up about this: it just doesn’t make any sense to me. I want to magically make things better for my friend and take all of her pain away, but that is impossible. I just hope that for the sake of everyone involved, clarity is reached and that the healing can begin sooner rather than later.

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10:36 AM Oct 14 2011

The Last Joke
Yemen

Joy :

It is a part of our being human to make mistakes. Sometime we make mistakes without deliberation and intention. But sometime we knowingly and deliberately sin and do wrong to others.

 My philosophy is saying :  to err is human and to forgive is divine.

 This part of  statement are very true . However  as human beings we are responsible, but we do also make mistakes and we are constantly in need of forgiveness.

Forgiveness is the oil of relationships.

 I mean :

relationships will move with forgiveness !

Joy : Just look outside ….it's so pleasant sun is smiling for you , tress are dancing for you , birds are singing for you ! Because , I requested them all to do that for YOU !

09:27 AM Oct 14 2011

Joy900

Joy900
Japan

 

It's so hard to forget the person who has broken our heart but we must forgive him !

There are people who take the heart out of you and other who put it back it !

Baset :

If you haven't forgiven yourself , how can you forgive others?

10:53 AM Oct 11 2011

The Last Joke
Yemen

Dear teacher :

We are only humans so inevitably we will make mistakes  from time to time. Often, we tend to despair when we commit mistakes .

Anyway :

The one who has done the mistake , he  must ask others for forgiveness with these conditions:

. To discontinue the mistake.

. To regret over its occurrence.

. To determine never to go back to that mistake again.

. To give back the right to whom it is due if the mistake involves someone who is very beautiful !

 

Dear teacher :

Forgiveness is better than revenge, for forgiveness is the sign of a gentle nature, but revenge is the sign of a savage nature.

Dear teacher :

Thanks a million for your great blog & have a nice day !