“曾经沧海难为水”

Actually love or hate is just within a flash of thought. Love needs to get understanding and toleration timely. Many things may be just your mind changing. Got it? When someone fell in love with you, and you felt he is nice, that does not mean you will love him. Have ever met some people in the same camp, but it is always disappointed whenever we expect. I understood the reason was I look forward to love too high. Now I learn to look on love with 80 percent fervor, in other words, that is no illusions about it, no any expectations may be come more naturally. Yeah, when you fell in love with somebody, it is okay to love him with 80 percent, all expectations or hope always is no more than 80 percent, and another part (20 percent) was left to love myself. If you still continue to love him more, maybe it gives him the heavy pressure and forces him to lose his breath or let him completely lost the fun of love. So please bear in mind, drinking is no more than 60 percent drunk, dining is no more than 70 percent full, and love is no more than 80 percent fervor, got it?

         We always say after I found a very lovely man I may fall in love with him. But when he asked you what is very lovely, you can’t answer him, because you didn’t know either. Yeah, we always think that we are able to find a very lovely man, but we will feel how naïve we are when we suddenly look back. If we have never started, how do you know whether you really love him or not? Actually the very lovely feelings will be felt after you have experienced many things. Perhaps everyone also want to find 100 percent satisfying fere in their minds, but did you think that? Maybe someone dumbly loved you for a long time but you didn’t feel it, is it true? So you ought to look at the people around you carefully, maybe he has already been waiting for you for a long time.         

          If you are losing for love too, perhaps the words can give you some inspiration. Love a man, how to do? It needs to understand and be understood, apologize and thanks, admit and correct, considerate and understanding. What is love? It is to accept not abide, allowance not connivance, support not dominate, condole not assail, confide not complain, memorable not forgotten, communicate with each other rather than account for everything, silently pray for the other rather than many other requirements, can be romantic but do not waste, any time in hand but it should not break. When broken, can it come back? If it isn’t back, how should we do?  

         I dare not have wildly wishes I am a spending on whole life man with you, I only hope that I am a ever given you the most bone-deep feelings, engraved in mind and recalled with deep emotion man..

         Do you notice? For feeling of love, we always feel very sweet at the beginning, and always feel we should get one more person to stay or partake with us, you are finally no longer lonely, at least you have one person love or think of you, come what may, it is okay if only we are together, but you begin to find out each other’s shortcomings with the mutual understanding deeply, so the matter was happened one by one, you began to feel trouble tired and even wanted to shirk.        
         Some people said love is like picking up a stone, always want to pick up a suitable one, but how do you know when to pick it up? She is right for you, may you fit to her? In fact, love is like terrazzo, perhaps you just pick up at the beginning, you have a little bit dissatisfaction, but you know people are flexible, some things can be changed, as long as you have belief and courage, kindly polished the stone you have already owned, it is better than everywhere you pick up an unknown stone.

           Many people thought that people would become lazy because of the reins become to thin. That is not correct. In fact people were conquered by inertia first, so the feeling will thin. In an occasion dine together a middle aged man suddenly said when my wife was still a girlfriend ten years ago she said she wanted to eat ten shrimps, I would help her to peel twenty shrimps, if she want me to help her to peel shrimp shells now, joking! It is no interest to even help her to undress, it is so stupid idea or impossible to shell shrimp now. Heard that, got it?     
　      So more and more people just wanted to last in amativeness for a lifetime, were not willing to move into marriage heaven, because marriage is easy to let people become lazy. If everyone is too lazy to talk, too lazy to hearken, too lazy to make surprises or too lazy to make blandness and show consideration for lover, how aren’t they getting further away and becoming silent in spouse or sweetie. A dynamic love needs some moderately complaisance to irrigate, love can not skulk.   

            For example, there were a couple of lovers who had a date after work for dinner or shopping, but the girl was already late more than 30 minutes for company meeting, when he arrived in the rain, her boyfriend was angry and said you are always such this way, I don’t have any moods, so I will be waiting for you no longer. At that time the girl finally tear out as band was suddenly collapsed, perhaps they will have no future any more, she thought.      

           Like in the same place, another couple is also facing as the same situation, girl arrived late for half an hour, but his boyfriend said I think you must be busy bad. He took off his coat and covered on his girlfriend. At the moment, the girl in tears, but the tears which were on her face were so warm, do you understand?